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I think it depends on the situation. My motto is pay attention to how they act once that person leaves. Are they more intimate with you or more distant. If they're more intimate, then there's a good chance that they missed you. If they're more distant, then they realized the relationship is not the right one for them or maybe they messed around on you.
I've made some poor decisions in my past, and every time I did something stupid, I tended to pull back because of guilt or fondly thinking of someone else instead of my partner. It's something that I have a handle on now and don't even mess with. It's just not worth the headache and/or immense guilt I would feel.
Its just a gf. If you were exclusive, I'd make it non exclusive. Don't make long term plans with this one. She likes to play the field. And make sure you're not funding the going out. Make sure its 50/50. If it isn't, my guess is that you're being played.
And don't go by what the others are saying. Don't buy the words she's speaking. People lie all the time. Go by her actions.
The situation seems fine to me. Her friend is coming a long way to help her with her thesis so he's spending the night. And she told you about it. I mean, the thing is, anyone can cheat at any time. But I would think that if she had cheating on her mind - she wouldn't have told you about all of this. She just would have lied. I've had friends come and stay with me before and nothing happened.
I think it depends on the situation. My motto is pay attention to how they act once that person leaves. Are they more intimate with you or more distant. If they're more intimate, then there's a good chance that they missed you. If they're more distant, then they realized the relationship is not the right one for them or maybe they messed around on you.
I've made some poor decisions in my past, and every time I did something stupid, I tended to pull back because of guilt or fondly thinking of someone else instead of my partner. It's something that I have a handle on now and don't even mess with. It's just not worth the headache and/or immense guilt I would feel.
I don't agree with this approach at all. In many cases of infidelity, the wayward spouse/partner increase intimacy and sex with the betrayed spouse, as to not cause any suspicions. This is one of the red flags to look for when suspecting your significant other of cheating. Sex frequency and intimacy almost always either increases or decreases, but rarely ever stays the same. Learn a little bit about infidelity.
The situation seems fine to me. Her friend is coming a long way to help her with her thesis so he's spending the night. And she told you about it. I mean, the thing is, anyone can cheat at any time. But I would think that if she had cheating on her mind - she wouldn't have told you about all of this. She just would have lied. I've had friends come and stay with me before and nothing happened.
Unless that is her MO, to keep the guy she is cheating with in plain sight!
How much trust can be built in 2-3 months into a relationship?
I can understand your worries, OP, but there's nothing you can really do but let this play out.
If it was me, I would have set up some basic boundaries....and a guy coming from out of town sleeping over my gf house for homework isn't going to fly. Please! Lol
You can't say you trust someone and then immediately say why you have reason to not trust them...
I would say if this bothers you, it's time to have the talk about what you both feel is appropriate in committed relationships.
Hash it out instead of leaving it unspoken.
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