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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
You seem to not understand that every rule is not spoken.
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You seem to not understand that you can not just make up rules that do not exist and merely label them "unspoken" as if this codified them somehow. Again - they were both single with no expectation of getting back together therefore AGAIN - their sex life during that time is none of each others business.
That does NOT mean they are not allowed ask of course - but it DOES mean they have no real right to expect to get an answer. And the OP was out of line to brow beat an answer out of her to the point of breaking her down into tears.
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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
In America, we don't "normally" sleep with our friends spouse.
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Then take it up with the friends. I am talking about the OP and his partner. If you have an issue with what the FRIENDS did thats fine - but do not take it up with me given I was not talking about that. It is a different subject to what I am discussing.
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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
You said what she does during a separation is her business. Agreed, as long as her business doesn't flow into "his" business. When she slept with "three" of his friends, that then crosses the line into "his" business.
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That is tosh. She is broken up with him. Who she sleeps with is her own business. She has no obligation to him - let alone vicariously through his friends. Now if the OP has an issue with his FRIENDS for doing this - that is a different topic. But once again - I am commenting on the OP only and his partner only. Nothing to do with his friends.
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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
I never thought separations were a green light for the individual to go sleep with everybody and anybody that they want to. I thought the primary goal was to see how you are without each other as well as see if you still want to be together.
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There are different kinds of separation. There are "breaks" which are exactly what you describe. You are considering getting back together etc etc and there may be parameters and rules and expectations in such a scenario. Then there are separations which are (or seem to be) final. Which is the one the OP says they were in. During the break up they had NO expectation of getting back together. It was final. It was over. And that is the context my comments should be taken in.
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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
The fact that they did get back together means that she did not rule getting back together out.
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You do not know that. She may have. She may not have. ALL we know is that the OP said they had no intentions of getting back together.
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Originally Posted by slipperyslope93
And I never got personal. I just said what I felt. You seem to pick a side and no matter what evidence is presented
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None HAS been presented. Just wishy washy nonsense about "unspoken" things that you simply make up.