If more men were honest on OLD sites: (lover, younger, kissing)
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Well, a lot of my friends do approach it that way, but not me. And to be fair, I have a couple of female "friends" (acquaintances really) who just use it for free meals and don't want to meet anyone. One of them has been on dozens of first dates and not a single second date although she gets asked for a second one many times.
Basically OLD is difficult for everybody, at least everybody who isn't unusually attractive. I am not, so I chose not to restore my account when my recent OLD relationship ended.
Yes, I have read a few very FRANK male profiles that said bluntly, I only like thin chicks. And I've seen some blunt age cut offs as well. But most male profiles are barely even filled out properly.
Since you know so much about men, why don't you just pretend they said that anyway (since that's obviously how they really feel) and act accordingly? Think of all the time you'll save!
Yep, that's pretty much what I do. Don't spend much time on the OLD site because there's slim pickin's for sure.
I don't see the OP suggesting that all men want X or Y, or that all men are less than honest about what they want. "If more men were honest" implies that some men are honest, meaning they want whatever they say they want. Having made the claim that at least some men are deceptive, she then says that if all men who were deceptive would be honest a lot of confusion could be avoided.
For someone apparently frustrated with OLD, that's a pretty tame rant which seems to have some truth to it. And yes, it can apply to women and people of different sexual orientations. Not knowing or not being honest about what you're looking for in OLD creates heartache.
Thank you. I appreciate you pointing this out. I don't think all the men on OLD are dishonest. I do appreciate specifics in profiles and I have found that a lot of men's profiles are not very well filled in. This may be true of women's profiles as well, but I wouldn't know since I do not view women on OLD. I have no idea what the men see when they look at women on there.
I can understand that...but a woman complaining about OLD isn't going to get much sympathy to be blunt. Men have it way way waaaayyy harder on the OLD sites. There is no comparison and it's not even open for debate at this point. It's just common knowledge.
I don't disagree, but some people just have to complain about something. Let them whine a little.
Yes, I have read a few very FRANK male profiles that said bluntly, I only like thin chicks. And I've seen some blunt age cut offs as well. But most male profiles are barely even filled out properly.
Ha, I guess I'm in the minority then! Just curious, what age range of men are you searching for? "I only like thin chicks" sounds like something college-age or just out of college age guys would write. Granted, I obviously don't look at men's profiles but this still seems hard to believe. I actually put a lot in my profile, and I'm very specific too. Not just "I like travel" or "I like music" but I go into quite a bit of detail. Maybe that's why I had quite a bit of success, who knows. As for age, as long as they were within 5 to 7 years of me +/- that was fine with me.
Well, a lot of my friends do approach it that way, but not me. And to be fair, I have a couple of female "friends" (acquaintances really) who just use it for free meals and don't want to meet anyone. One of them has been on dozens of first dates and not a single second date although she gets asked for a second one many times.
Women who do this are scum, pure and simple. If a woman is just going out on a date with a guy that she's not sexually attracted to just so he can pay for dinner/movie, etc. - and she knows ahead of time that she has no plans to sleep with him or for that matter see him again - she's a P.O.S. However, as I've mentioned in other recent threads, the guy is at fault here too - i.e., if a guy is such a clueless dumb***** that he lets himself be taken advantage of by women like this, he deserves what happens to him. This is all because our society states that men have to do the pursuing & all women have to do is sit back & let guys come after them. #%$%^#%.
This may be true of women's profiles as well, but I wouldn't know since I do not view women on OLD. I have no idea what the men see when they look at women on there.
Before I go on a tear about something I usually do some research. It is easy enough to switch genders in search fields to see what kinds of profiles women put on OLD. You should try it before you post anymore in this vein. Hawaiian Coconut is spot on. However, there is a common misconception about what 'dark' means in T,D,&H. It means Ricardo Montalban, not Denzel Washington, about 99% of the time. Me, I'm closer to Samuel L. Jackson and OLD has been brutal. Legitimate OLD i.e. Match, OKC, PoF just don't do diversity that well. The situation is very different on the hook-up and fetish dating sites. BBC rules. Does anyone lie about having one, I wonder.
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This is incorrect. There are guys out there - like me - who like natural, bigger women - not thin match-sticks.
How many of those guys look like Michaelangelo's "David"? I've dated a number of BBW's and they, almost to a one, would NOT date a guy of the same degree of overweight as themselves.
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