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So I went on a date with this girl I met at an event. We met up 3 days ago after she got out of work and went to a coffee shop. We sat there for 2 hours and just talked about stuff trying to get to know each other. After 7:30 she said, "I got to go I gotta get up at 6 tomorrow". I said, "Oh OK, I was going to go over there and grab a bite to eat". She said, "Oh OK, well I join you then".
I took her to one of my favorite diners, we had a good meal, I tried to be just a little physical (arm touching, hand touching, etc.). However, she really wasn't touching back much or at all. I walked her to the train station and hugged her goodbye. She told me, " text me when you get home" and I playfully said, "nah, you text me lol".
It felt like she was more like a good buddy than a potential mate. Didn't seem like there was a lot of chemistry from her end even though we eerily have a lot in common. I think I was expecting too much out of a first date, but I feel there should be SOME indicator of sexual chemistry there. I like her, but I don't want to get the wrong idea of her. I normally go for the kiss on the first date but this time I didn't feel like it was right to do so.
So I went on a date with this girl I met at an event. We met up 3 days ago after she got out of work and went to a coffee shop. We sat there for 2 hours and just talked about stuff trying to get to know each other. After 7:30 she said, "I got to go I gotta get up at 6 tomorrow". I said, "Oh OK, I was going to go over there and grab a bite to eat". She said, "Oh OK, well I join you then".
I took her to one of my favorite diners, we had a good meal, I tried to be just a little physical (arm touching, hand touching, etc.). However, she really wasn't touching back much or at all. I walked her to the train station and hugged her goodbye. She told me, " text me when you get home" and I playfully said, "nah, you text me lol".
It felt like she was more like a good buddy than a potential mate. Didn't seem like there was a lot of chemistry from her end even though we eerily have a lot in common. I think I was expecting too much out of a first date, but I feel there should be SOME indicator of sexual chemistry there. I like her, but I don't want to get the wrong idea of her. I normally go for the kiss on the first date but this time I didn't feel like it was right to do so.
Should I call her back or no?
Yes.
She had been at work ALL day. And she went with you to dinner.
No, do not call her back. She's not interested, and some of the reason for this falls on you.
No meal or coffee dates in the future for you. You can do those things in an established relationships. Those types of dates do not enhance your ability to create physical attraction.
I do like that you met her in person first instead of on a site or app.
Flirt more. Sit side-by-side at a bar and have drinks. Touch her playfully. Kiss her. See how far your first dates go.
No, do not call her back. She's not interested, and some of the reason for this falls on you.
No meal or coffee dates in the future for you. You can do those things in an established relationships. Those types of dates do not enhance your ability to create physical attraction.
I do like that you met her in person first instead of on a site or app.
Flirt more. Sit side-by-side at a bar and have drinks. Touch her playfully. Kiss her. See how far your first dates go.
I disagree.
We sat next to each other every time and I don't think I need to take a girl out on an expensive dinner date before getting to know her. I took her to the diner because I liked her and i wanted to keep talking to her.
So, basically you like her as a friend but you aren't attracted to her? Is that what you are saying?
No, I am attracted to her, but her vibe just seemed more friendly despite me trying to escalate things. She didn't mind me touching her but just wished she would of reciprocated more.
We sat next to each other every time and I don't think I need to take a girl out on an expensive dinner date before getting to know her. I took her to the diner because I liked her and i wanted to keep talking to her.
You completely misinterpreted what I said. I don't think you should go on any meal dates. I don't care whether it is McDonald's or a five-star restaurant. No coffee dates either. Either go for drinks or do a mutually enjoyable activity.
No, I am attracted to her, but her vibe just seemed more friendly despite me trying to escalate things. She didn't mind me touching her but just wished she would of reciprocated more.
Then I would go out with her again. If you are attracted to her - then it's worth it to see if there's something there. Not everyone is comfortable being physical with someone they just met.
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