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Basically she's the one who calls the shots and makes the most decisions. Friends of mine have said I shouldn't let a woman wear the pants, as weird as it sounds though, I like it. I don't know why but I do. Is that weird?
A lot of men these days just accept not wearing the pants in a relationship because they don't like being single. In western society, there are only so many woman that will take a traditional role. We live in a society that empowers women and emasculates men, so it should be no surprise that we have lot of men that simply don't know how to be a man anymore.
A guy now days can be replaced by one of his woman's "guy friends" so fast it will make his head spin if he stops kissing her butt or showering her with attention. I see this with the younger men I work with. I'm so glad I'm married and not playing the dating game these days. Between all the feminism that's crammed down our throats and social networking, I couldn't even imagine dating these days. My wife say's she can't believe how any decent man could tolerate most the younger women she works with. She says all they do is complain about EVERYTHING.
It is weird in context of those who feel the man should always lead.
For others, it's obviously not much of an issue at all because they do not share these more "traditional" values.
Realistically, you should both have your pants on and be making choices together and not settle for either of those two extremes
Basically she's the one who calls the shots and makes the most decisions. Friends of mine have said I shouldn't let a woman wear the pants, as weird as it sounds though, I like it. I don't know why but I do. Is that weird?
Personally I'm the opposite of passive and when I see a couple like you two it makes my skin crawl, but what's important is what works for you, not me. As long as both of you are happy and you don't become passive-aggressive about it...
The problem with letting your spouse or SO "wear the pants" is that you may come to resent them or they resent you at a future point in time. You may get "why do I have to do everything" or "why don't you ever do something". You might also disagree with their decisions and cause a future problem. Its easier now to let them do everything but you are building things up for a potential future disagreement.
...and this is exactly what I mean when I talked about becoming passive agressive...
Some women think they want a milquetoast because they're easy to lead, but at some point they get tired of having to lead him on a leash all the time and they become resentful.
Some women think they want a milquetoast because they're easy to lead, but at some point they get tired of having to lead him on a leash all the time and they become resentful.
It boils down to communication, as it does in any relationship.
Having resentments and being passive-aggressive is basically the result of lack of communication and not being on the same page with one's partner.
What are the expectations in the relationship? What role does each party want to (and expect to) fulfill within it? Is each party willing to open their mouth when they feel something "isn't right"? All of these questions apply to any relationship, whether "egalitarian", male-led or female-led.
Having an authority-based relationship is really no different, fundamentally, than having any other sort of relationship in that honest communication is an absolute key.
Personally I'm the opposite of passive and when I see a couple like you two it makes my skin crawl, but what's important is what works for you, not me. As long as both of you are happy and you don't become passive-aggressive about it...
A lot of men these days just accept not wearing the pants in a relationship because they don't like being single. In western society, there are only so many woman that will take a traditional role. We live in a society that empowers women and emasculates men, so it should be no surprise that we have lot of men that simply don't know how to be a man anymore.
A guy now days can be replaced by one of his woman's "guy friends" so fast it will make his head spin if he stops kissing her butt or showering her with attention. I see this with the younger men I work with. I'm so glad I'm married and not playing the dating game these days. Between all the feminism that's crammed down our throats and social networking, I couldn't even imagine dating these days. My wife say's she can't believe how any decent man could tolerate most the younger women she works with. She says all they do is complain about EVERYTHING.
You mad, bro? You're married. Be happy. And btw, when I was in HS and had summer jobs in an office full of young married women, they all complained about everything, too. I never understood why they complained about their husbands, just silly stuff. But that was a different generation, which goes to show that some women have always done that. It's nothing about "today" or feminism.
Basically she's the one who calls the shots and makes the most decisions. Friends of mine have said I shouldn't let a woman wear the pants, as weird as it sounds though, I like it. I don't know why but I do. Is that weird?
There's a fine line from say being on a tight leash ( which you make it sound mate lol )
But I look at a strong woman that " takes charge " and is quite decisive as unbelievable sexy I must admit, plus with that sort of a lady on a mans side it can make a man feel invincible
I had that with the ex ( of sorts ) we would argue and clash quite often as are both opinionated LOL but she was a very good woman and in the end my finances were in order, my health/fitness was perfect, and amongst other things I've never been happier so.......
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