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LOL you need to relax. I asked this because I was reading the other thread and the thought came up.
That wasn't a "shot" at you I was just being honest. I didn't say there was anything wrong with your post or your question. Just stated that I thought you were very young. Not a bad thing.
The reason I bring it up, is because people make such a big deal about herpes from sex, but give herpes from kissing almost no thought.
Kind of ironic how many people are horrified that they might get herpes from unprotected sex when they are kissing people they barely know so readily. More people have mouth herpes than people have it in their genital area.
True simplex1 though is not always transmitted sexually. Simplex 2 is more to be worried about.
If there is other type of real affection going on like cuddling and the like, I'm all good with waiting 8 or so dates for a kiss. I'd want the lady to feel comfortable.
But if no real display of affection is happening at all after 8 or so, than it's time to move on.
If there is other type of real affection going on like cuddling and the like, I'm all good with waiting 8 or so dates for a kiss. I'd want the lady to feel comfortable.
But if no real display of affection is happening at all after 8 or so, than it's time to move on.
I've come across a couple women who are extremely conservative when it comes to showing affection and/or anything sexual. I think it has to do more with one's upbringing and philosophical ideology.
I've come across a couple women who are extremely conservative when it comes to showing affection and/or anything sexual. I think it has to do more with one's upbringing and philosophical ideology.
I must point out this is a terrible way to handle things. Like another poster mentioned lot of guys may feel all that but not take action on the first date. Perfectly normal, in my most recent 2 dates one I knew I could kiss on the first date but choose not to, I wanted to build the tension. The last date the girl made the move on me as our night was ending.
I am not talking about some hard, inflexible "rule" that I would impose across the board. The purpose of a first date is to get to know each other a bit, see if you have a baseline level of compatibility, and assess attraction. If mutual attraction is there, we are going to want to kiss. If the attraction is not there, obviously the dating isn't going to go anywhere. If the attraction *is* there but the other person refuses to kiss because they want to play games by "build[ing] tension" or because they think the act of touching our lips together would make the baby Jesus cry or because they are so socially paralyzed that normal interactions leave them petrified...well, that just means the compatibility isn't there. I wouldn't automatically refuse a second date because there was no kiss on the first date, but there would have to be some sort of extenuating circumstance that would cause it to make sense.
As an aside: I can only think of a few no-kiss first dates from my own history. One was my very first date ever at age 19 (I had no desire to date any of the boys in my small-town HS), and I did see him again--and kiss him on the second date. Then there were a couple of people where there was just no chemistry, and obviously there would be no second date regardless of kiss/no kiss. So no, I wouldn't say this "cut down my dating pool a lot" other than eliminating the incompatible.
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wouldnt mind if they thought at least 11 but 10........ Lol
