Living apart/Relationship ' and the Holidays (date, marriage, single)

[RunD1987]

Hi, so Fiancé know is upset at me. Come home after work around midnight text her goodnight and receive a text about seeing her tomorrow.

Originally she was working during the evening, but she no longer is. Fiancé wanted to see me tomorrow offered her to come with me to family dinner. Knowing her wanting to spend with her mom only parent and family really okay with that.

Anywho Fiancé is upset not seeing her in the morning sprung it on me. I am working night shift and seeing the family in the afternoon. The morning is the only time I am really going to be able to catch some sleep.

I will call my fiancé tomorrow, but am I wrong not seeing her?

Christmas eve plan to stop over around midnight and leave at noon time Christmas, since she work's Christmas. Probably won't see her much of thr New Year's Holiday because we're both working.

So is it wrong for only seeing my fiancé one holiday this season? That's maybe going to be 8 hour's of sleep and 4 hour's in the morning awake together.

[RJ312]

The point of having a relationship is not to spend holidays alone. If you are going to spend holidays alone, might as well be single.

[mishigas73]

Is there any way that you can plan for some special time together when you're both not working? So you can't get together on Thanksgiving Day. There's no rule that says that you can't celebrate on another day.

[augiedogie]

When discussing "engagement" in this day and age, I always ask, when is the wedding? If there is no date, then I immediately wonder if one or both is really all that serious about getting married, or if just one is, or they just got engaged because of family preasure. So is there a date? If there isn't, it shows.

Marriage usually involves two becoming one, and that means they do things together. That means sometimes family visits on holidays are modified or omitted, because one person can't be in two places at the same time? Get my drift?

[RunD1987]

Date is November 25 2016 the wedding. I feel guilty not seeing her, but I need the rest for work. Do plan on seeing her all day tomorrow.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by RunD1987

I feel guilty not seeing her, but I need the rest for work. Do plan on seeing her all day tomorrow.

So, what's the problem again?

[RunD1987]

Originally Posted by mishigas73

So, what's the problem again?

The SO is just upset no real problem. Keeping me awake ha.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by RunD1987

The SO is just upset no real problem. Keeping me awake ha.

Is there any reason why you can't do something special with her tomorrow? Make a nice meal or something? (That is, don't make it just "hanging out".)

I can't tell you how many times I've had Thanksgiving on Friday- due to work schedules and such. Does the *day* truly matter?

[RunD1987]

Originally Posted by mishigas73

Is there any reason why you can't do something special with her tomorrow? Make a nice meal or something? (That is, don't make it just "hanging out".)

I can't tell you how many times I've had Thanksgiving on Friday- due to work schedules and such. Does the *day* truly matter?

Keep our fingers crossed I hope ha. Usually spend our weekends off at her place. However, mom's birthday so going to with my mom on Saturday. Think fiancé is upset because are schedules been a bit crazy lately we only seen each other once in the past 7 day's.

[carnivalday]

Seems its your fiances problem, not yours. You can only do what you can do. Either she compromises and understands...or she doesnt. Before you know it, the weekend will be over anyway.