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I lot of people think they've met their soulmate . But there are so many other people in the world you just never know.
That's where commitment comes in. When you marry someone, you promise to choose them every day, "forsaking all others."
There will always be attractive people, but you CHOOSE to be with your spouse.
That's why it's so important that you choose a quality partner. You aren't picking a perfect person, just the best person for you. You aren't a perfect person either, but if you find someone who can tolerate your quirks and love you in spite of that, and you both honor your commitment, you're good.
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The idea that you meet your 'soulmate' after you're married to someone else is an illusion. See 'the grass is always greener' above. The excitement and 'high' of an illicit affair when you're attached to someone else is a real phenomenon and you can convince yourself that you and the affair person were 'destined' to be together. But you haven't been through the ups and downs of a normal marital relationship with them like you have been with your spouse, and you'll find if you leave your spouse for that person, it won't be the 'happily ever after' you thought it would be, it's the same sh*t, different partner. So save everyone the heartache and stick with the person you're with (unless there's some sort of abuse, then be an adult and divorce instead of engaging in infidelity).
But if you just happen to come across someone you have more chemistry and develop, naturally, a deep love for? I guess it depends how serious you take marriage and live.
How do you allow yourself to get close enough to develop a deep love for someone else when you are already married? Don't put yourself in that situation.
The idea that you meet your 'soulmate' after you're married to someone else is an illusion. See 'the grass is always greener' above. The excitement and 'high' of an illicit affair when you're attached to someone else is a real phenomenon and you can convince yourself that you and the affair person were 'destined' to be together. But you haven't been through the ups and downs of a normal marital relationship with them like you have been with your spouse, and you'll find if you leave your spouse for that person, it won't be the 'happily ever after' you thought it would be, it's the same sh*t, different partner. So save everyone the heartache and stick with the person you're with (unless there's some sort of abuse, then be an adult and divorce instead of engaging in infidelity).
The idea that you meet your 'soulmate' after you're married to someone else is an illusion. See 'the grass is always greener' above. The excitement and 'high' of an illicit affair when you're attached to someone else is a real phenomenon and you can convince yourself that you and the affair person were 'destined' to be together. But you haven't been through the ups and downs of a normal marital relationship with them like you have been with your spouse, and you'll find if you leave your spouse for that person, it won't be the 'happily ever after' you thought it would be, it's the same sh*t, different partner. So save everyone the heartache and stick with the person you're with (unless there's some sort of abuse, then be an adult and divorce instead of engaging in infidelity).
This is a great post.
Same thing is happening with my brother.
Spoiler
He dating 1 girl for a good few years, and even planned to get married. But at some point, he was tired of her, and just stayed with her to live in her apartment, and spend her money, since she already had her lfie together. Meanwhile, he was dating a girl who was still in HS behind her back.
His ex fiance found out, and attacked him. He had to move in with our parents. He and his new girl got a place together. And she's very ridiculous. He leaves early one morning, and she calls my parents 3 times freaking out because he didn't tell her he was leaving. And she also has issues with stealing, and can't hold down a job because she always gets fired for such. She's lost 2 jobs in 5 months for it. Now he's having to take care of most stuff, because she rarely has money. Now she's pregnant.
But this was the girl he wanted while with the other one. Now he's living with her, and she's been a huge hassle. He's basically inherited his ex fiance's position. But he doesn't have the money to do it as well. lol
No problem if he felt things weren't wording with his fiance. but the way he handled it was totally classless. His current girlfriend seems to make him furious quite a bit. He already has high blood pressure, and worse dealing with her.
The idea that you meet your 'soulmate' after you're married to someone else is an illusion. See 'the grass is always greener' above. The excitement and 'high' of an illicit affair when you're attached to someone else is a real phenomenon and you can convince yourself that you and the affair person were 'destined' to be together. But you haven't been through the ups and downs of a normal marital relationship with them like you have been with your spouse, and you'll find if you leave your spouse for that person, it won't be the 'happily ever after' you thought it would be, it's the same sh*t, different partner. So save everyone the heartache and stick with the person you're with (unless there's some sort of abuse, then be an adult and divorce instead of engaging in infidelity).
You do understand that one's "soulmate" is not required to be their romantic partner also, right?
IF you continue to look for someone else after being in a committed relationship then you should get out of that relationship because you are definitely not committed.
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