Rocky Week with future DW: Can this be salvaged... (date, marriage, woman)

[RunD1987]

Hi, I am not sure where to start and I feel very disoriented in emotions. This week started with a conversation with my SO about children.*

Fiancé wants to have children after marriage fearing that she won't be able to bear children after 30. We'll be 29 when we're married. Fiancé and I are both in school for nursing should be completed by time 31/32. Suggested that around that time can start planning for children. Additionally, we're living on a separate housing of the MIL house. I mean we pay rent not much, but rent/utilities. I suggested to the fiancé to wait till more established and financially secure. Fiancé took it all that matters is money in our future together. Continued on that it never will be enough for me because there is never enough money. That is not the case I tried explaining it's more just we have a plan for careers that will help up us raise kid's together. Continues to go it's her body her choice I will have no more eggs by the time I am 30 I will not have anymore kid's after 35.

Continued on how I am selfish only care about myself and do what I need to do. Ended up crying in tears.

A few days later had a mix up in what holiday's fiancé was off. Fiancé was off Thanksgiving thought I see her in the morning before seeing my family on my mom's side. I told my fiancé working night shift at work sleep in because I worked the day before. Plan on seeing her Friday. Additionally, see fiancé Christmas Eve night and Christmas morning since fiancé works evenings of Christmas.

Fiancé was upset, but waa contained. However, come Thanksgiving title began to build with my fiancé. To a point calling me saying that I need to fix this, you don't care about me, your selfish, this is the second time I am crying this week, you don't love me, I am evaluating the marriage, do you want to marry me, and so forth. Continued on about the right answer is future holiday's are with me and our children that is it or a divorce. Continued on about swearing ay me and telling me how her mom kept asking if fiancé really wanted to marry me.

Had Thanksgiving with family and fiancé started talking to me again. However, canceled plans Friday with me and had something to do with her mom, which was fine.

Come later in the evening joked about how coworkers said another coworker is an older double of my fiancé. That didn't turn out well fiancé continually texted me about how I am cheating on her and if I ever did they'll be trouble.

Comes to today fiancé text me around 6 to come see her. Figured wouldn't see her with hetic schedule procrastinated a lot of my errands till the end of the day, especially since I worked night's. Kind of was upset fiancé asked me late to just come over. I kind of danced around the question telling her I had errands to do. I wanted to get ready for our Save the Date pictures tomorrow.

About tomorrow fiancé can't trust my mom and leary on her helping to take the picture. My mom is difficult to get along with very critical and over bearing, but that's another issue. I kept telling her yea mom will help with the picture, but became upset didn't tell her yes mom will take our picture's.

Fiancé is off and on talking to me tonight. Making accusations that something is wrong with me this week. Again fiancé may not want to come with me tomorrow again and drop plan's because she is upset. I did invite my fiancé and mom to family Thanksgiving dinner when I found out fiancé was off, but fiancé turned down the offer.

I really have no clue what to do. Am I wrong for not seeing my fiancé in the morning or this evening?

Appreciate any feedback or help. I don't know why the relationship, on my DW side, is so hostile lately. Am I in the wrong or doing anything wrong?

[Just A Guy]

1. I'm guessing she has a history of acting like this.

2. Sounds like you are marrying your mother.

[carnivalday]

Sounds like she is looking for excuses to get angry with you instead of working things out like an adult.

[Just A Guy]

Oh, wait. You just had another thread the other day about her obnoxious outbursts, didn't you?

[Ginge McFantaPants]

Why are you marrying this woman? Can you envision living like this for decades to come?

[RunD1987]

Originally Posted by Ms.Mathlete

Why are you marrying this woman? Can you envision living like this for decades to come?

Fiancé never has been like this. So hoping can talk figure out what is going on. Fiancé is blaming me for this week and I am feel oblivious.

[BirdieBelle]

Y'all don't need to save the date for anything.

She takes everything personally and makes personal accusations about your character.

You are avoidant and seem kind of clueless about appropriate emotions.

Remember, this should be the BEST time in your lives, full of romance and excitement about the coming marriage to the person you love above all others. Marriage doesn't make problems go away; it magnifies them.

Can you imagine that after you're married, when you're NOT on your best behavior, how much worse it will be?? And already she may or may not even talk to you sometimes??? That's 12-year-old behavior.

Sounds like a disaster in the making.

[MissClutterbuck]

I do have some good advice for you, but I'll wait until you post another thread about this to tell you what it is.

[PhureeKeeper]

OP, you already have the word Run in your profile name. Put it to good use.

[NewbieHere]

No but think of it logically. She is going to be 29 and if she dumps you or vice versa, it will take her a year or two to find a new fiancé and then another year to plan a wedding. When it's all said and done she will be around 31/32 years anyway. I wouldn't give into the pressure. You have the winning hand. If you worry about losing her, do remind her, it will not work as as she intended.