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Today has been really difficult. Weekends are the toughest because you really don't have much keeping you busy. Though i have taken up swimming again, its something i use to love but had put it aside for a while. A swimming session today helped me cope with the loneliness and clear my head. I just wish the days could go faster.I want to thank everyone for the support though, it helps to know other people have gone through this before and come out of it stronger and better.
Today has been really difficult. Weekends are the toughest because you really don't have much keeping you busy. Though i have taken up swimming again, its something i use to love but had put it aside for a while. A swimming session today helped me cope with the loneliness and clear my head. I just wish the days could go faster.I want to thank everyone for the support though, it helps to know other people have gone through this before and come out of it stronger and better.
Good for you! It's not supposed to be easy but time will heal things. Just stay positive and busy. You know what always helps too? Going to the movies! Get a friend or family member to go see a movie with you. For the 90-120 minutes that you are in there, you completely disconnect from everything that is going on and get sucked into the movie. It will be a good break for your mind and for you to enjoy a movie and not have her or your breakup present for those couple of hours. It's an escape.
Today has been really difficult. Weekends are the toughest because you really don't have much keeping you busy. Though i have taken up swimming again, its something i use to love but had put it aside for a while. A swimming session today helped me cope with the loneliness and clear my head. I just wish the days could go faster.I want to thank everyone for the support though, it helps to know other people have gone through this before and come out of it stronger and better.
Read some books on spirituality, particularly Eckhart Tolle, he's got some good stuff, none of his stuff addresses heartbreak per se, just saying in general, he's a good read.
When you move on and start seeing other women, don't let your thoughts turn bitter toward women, just because one woman acted poorly doesn't mean all will.
Nine months ago i started dating this girl who had just come out of an abusive relationship, her boyfriend use to hit her and mistreated her.....I had dated before but i had honestly never dated anyone who i ever felt this en-sync with. We talked all the time,shared everything and 4 months in i was the happiest i had ever been and introduced her to my family and i honestly believed this was it for me and i was going to marry this girl. About 2 months ago her ex boyfriend starts texting her. She tells me about it and how shes ignoring him and i believe her. About a week ago we spent the night together like we usually do and the next day i had decided to go home as it was my mums birthday and i would spend the night there. As usual we spent the whole day communicating as we usually do. In the evening at around 7 o'clock she tells me her phone is running low on battery while we were texting about two hours later i try calling her and her phone is off. So i decide to go to bed but my gut was telling me something was off and behold at about midnight am alerted by a friend of mine that he just spotted my girl with her ex at a casino making out and leaving together. At this point i couldn't get any sleep. At about 3 am she switches her phone back on. I call and confront her about it. She denies it until i told her i had concrete proof. she hang up on me and refused to pick the phone or answer any of my texts for the next two days. Eventually she coped up to it and told me she had slept with him. I was crushed and cant understand how she slept with me and him the very same day. I decided to break it off with her but i know shes now shacking up with him while am left in pieces. I have never been so depressed in my life i can barely function, for the last week i have only been able to sleep by taking sleeping pills and wine. I know time heals all wounds but this hurts so bad yet i have dated broken up with at least 2 other girls but this is beyond anything i have ever experienced before. I have planned to leave the country for a little while but i have to wait at least a month to do that in the meanwhile does anyone have any advise on how to move on.
Just be thankful this happened before you married the girl. Keep your chin up, stay busy, and keep going on with your life.
Read some books on spirituality, particularly Eckhart Tolle, he's got some good stuff, none of his stuff addresses heartbreak per se, just saying in general, he's a good read.
When you move on and start seeing other women, don't let your thoughts turn bitter toward women, just because one woman acted poorly doesn't mean all will.
There are lots and lots of good women out there.
Best of luck to you
Your right about rough days, even rough moments because you can wake up perfectly fine in the morning and at around lunch something just triggers your sadness and your day just goes south.
Thank you for the advise about the spiritual books i have been looking into them today.
I have had to switch phone numbers this week because shes been calling me on different numbers and shes been crying and whaling a lot and i honestly cant take it anymore. I really don't want anything to do with her and i have to block all avenues she can use to get to me.This has been a real trying time and just when i started feeling better she finds a way to ruin my week.
I have had to switch phone numbers this week because shes been calling me on different numbers and shes been crying and whaling a lot and i honestly cant take it anymore. I really don't want anything to do with her and i have to block all avenues she can use to get to me.This has been a real trying time and just when i started feeling better she finds a way to ruin my week.
sorry to hear that but a show of strength that u have not allowed urself to reenter her world
Nine months ago i started dating this girl who had just come out of an abusive relationship, her boyfriend use to hit her and mistreated her.....I had dated before but i had honestly never dated anyone who i ever felt this en-sync with. We talked all the time,shared everything and 4 months in i was the happiest i had ever been and introduced her to my family and i honestly believed this was it for me and i was going to marry this girl. About 2 months ago her ex boyfriend starts texting her. She tells me about it and how shes ignoring him and i believe her. About a week ago we spent the night together like we usually do and the next day i had decided to go home as it was my mums birthday and i would spend the night there. As usual we spent the whole day communicating as we usually do. In the evening at around 7 o'clock she tells me her phone is running low on battery while we were texting about two hours later i try calling her and her phone is off. So i decide to go to bed but my gut was telling me something was off and behold at about midnight am alerted by a friend of mine that he just spotted my girl with her ex at a casino making out and leaving together. At this point i couldn't get any sleep. At about 3 am she switches her phone back on. I call and confront her about it. She denies it until i told her i had concrete proof. she hang up on me and refused to pick the phone or answer any of my texts for the next two days. Eventually she coped up to it and told me she had slept with him. I was crushed and cant understand how she slept with me and him the very same day. I decided to break it off with her but i know shes now shacking up with him while am left in pieces. I have never been so depressed in my life i can barely function, for the last week i have only been able to sleep by taking sleeping pills and wine. I know time heals all wounds but this hurts so bad yet i have dated broken up with at least 2 other girls but this is beyond anything i have ever experienced before. I have planned to leave the country for a little while but i have to wait at least a month to do that in the meanwhile does anyone have any advise on how to move on.
The same thing happened to me On VALENTINES DAY! met a girl wintroduced her to the family thought I would marry her and she cheats with her EX.
I have had to switch phone numbers this week because shes been calling me on different numbers and shes been crying and whaling a lot and i honestly cant take it anymore. I really don't want anything to do with her and i have to block all avenues she can use to get to me.This has been a real trying time and just when i started feeling better she finds a way to ruin my week.
Channing numbers is a great step. Good job! You're doing the right thing.
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