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1. I wouldn't assume you're as compatible as you think. Sometimes people lie about their interests and hobbies and tell stories, just to get what they want.
2. You're completely right about breaking it off. You can't get mad at him for having children at 45, but not telling you until later is kind of a red flag.
3 He might just have been playing you to get you in bed.
-He knocked up two women in the past and forgot to mention it in all these conversations.
-He gets off and didn't care to or want to take care of your needs.
-He tells you he wasn't turned on.
-He tells you it'll get better later on.
-All this during the honeymoon/courting stage.
-He knocked up two women in the past and forgot to mention it in all these conversations.
-He gets off and didn't care to or want to take care of your needs.
-He tells you he wasn't turned on.
-All this during the honeymoon/courting stage.
Move to dismiss, your honor.
No the court case is for access to his eldest child. He's been trying to gain access for 6 years now.
He told me about 2 children initially and the rest after :s
The turned on bit sounds like a power struggle
Tbh he's too much drama and sounds like he's also riddled with insecurities.
It's a loss for him because I was willing to give him all the support he wants, however not at the expense of my needs being trampled on.
Tip: You should not be meeting children when you barely know the parent. That he would use his kids to further things with you is reprehensible.
Do not take it personally. It's his problem that he carries around with him, regardless of which women he's with. There are women who are the same way.
1. I wouldn't assume you're as compatible as you think. Sometimes people lie about their interests and hobbies and tell stories, just to get what they want.
2. You're completely right about breaking it off. You can't get mad at him for having children at 45, but not telling you until later is kind of a red flag.
3 He might just have been playing you to get you in bed.
Question - am I in the wrong and jumped the gun? Or am I correct in thinking he really is selfish sexually and soon after this would transcend into the potential relationship?
Or... Have I just been played?
Both. No great loss.
And wow, he sure knows how to charm the ladies. Holding your hand tenderly, and serenading you, or something to that effect?
Sorry, OP. Sometimes, when something (or someone) comes across as too good to be true, they are too good to be true. And you know, I could be wrong, but as soon as you posted in the beginning that you two had all the same interests, it made me wonder if he was faking some of that, and just responding to your statements about hobbies, etc., "Wow, me too!", like--just following your cues.
Live and learn. And yeah, a selfish lover should get booted after the first session, imo. It says a lot about a person's character. Also, the bit about 2 kids elsewhere (different moms? same mom?) would be a potential red flag.
Yeah, actually even before we were intimate he mentioned he rarely enjoys sex the first few times and he finds hids partner and sex more enjoyable as they progress further.
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No the court case is for access to his eldest child. He's been trying to gain access for 6 years now.
He told me about 2 children initially and the rest after :s
The turned on bit sounds like a power struggle
Tbh he's too much drama and sounds like he's also riddled with insecurities.
It's a loss for him because I was willing to give him all the support he wants, however not at the expense of my needs being trampled on.
Blocking me on WhatsApp is another childish act.
Good riddance.
From what you explained...I really wonder not JUST about this guy ( because he was on a lifestyle vision to get his jolly's)...thus blocked you..he can't have anyone pointing out his faults!!
But I really in truly wonder why you succumbed sexually to this guy( or any guy for that matter without knowing him)...remember..Talk is cheap..Never sleep ( sex wise) with anyone until you are sure...I use to use the term "Do I want this man to be the father of my child??" long BEFORE any sexual connection...Course I am old fashion..But it sure solved a whole slew of problems in my adult life!! Never had One sexual relationship I ever regretted! Yikes....reflecting now..They weren't that many as I'm sure I turned of self serving type prettier quick!! LOL
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I think I need a stronger jerk detector!
What you need to do is protect yourself..MAKE sure you learn personally ( Not written/online typed words) ..and lets face it...Whole loads of guys out there seeking SEX..and this has nothing to do with Love.....I would actually suggest getting tested..make sure he hasn't transmitted something to YOU!! Guys like this one never knows their past "Connections"???
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What you need to do is protect yourself..MAKE sure you learn personally ( Not written/online typed words) ..and lets face it...Whole loads of guys out there seeking SEX..and this has nothing to do with Love.....I would actually suggest getting tested..make sure he hasn't transmitted something to YOU!! Guys like this one never knows their past "Connections"???
