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So my issue isn't that PDA is disgusting, it's that it can be inconsiderate. Especially in the sense like young people when they go overboard with it, where they are willfully trying to shock everybody. I used to do that too...and then I grew up.
That is my perspective as well.
I also look at it from the standpoint of "consent". Did a member of the public, simply by leaving their home, consent to seeing me and my partner playing tonsil hockey in the Target parking lot? Is the average mom or dad going to be trying to shield their kid's eyes as they pass?
To me, just saying "we're so much in love, deal with it" is the epitome of selfishness. Of course you can help yourself. Unless, of course, no one else in the world matters.
The girl may just like to show off to others. And there is affection, holding hands and a quite kiss but the grinding, groping, etc., no place in public.
Never do something that you are uncomfortable doing to please someone else. Find someone that is compatible. Trust me on this.
I believe it boils down to motive .
Are you doing it to show off ?
Is it an event of a home coming after a long separation ?
Do you act the same in private ?
Do you both share this abandon ?
It seems to me that if a couple are kissing and not looking at the audience ,I can accept that they are passionate.positive
But if there is a careful examination for those observing while doing it , it's just a show and false passion .negative.
Impulsive acts of passion (Un-planned) are a beautiful thing , but people doing things purely to disturb others is offensive.
When I was married after the ceremony ,we kissed and my wife turned to hug her parents and after I picked her up and carried her down the isle ,she and every one were surprised, and every one loved it. especially my wife.
It was an impulse I had only come up with in that moment.
It was an effort to make this wedding which for the most part was very simple up to that point ,now something very special for her, and unique and memorable .
It was not something I continued to do in public, but we enjoyed it at home often .
I haven't read all the posts here, but I'll put in my .02:
I'm an affectionate man. I love hugs, embraces, kisses. If I'm with a lover/SO I believe strongly in holding hands, arm-wrapping around the midsection - even in public. An occasional small peck on the lips will suffice but I for one am not for passionate tongue-kissing and groping/grabbing in public. Once, many years ago, I was in a car and I saw some couple on the street kissing passionately and "feeling up" each other; I yelled at them, "Get a motel room!" Point is, if it goes deeper than what I mentioned in the first paragraph, I take it indoors!
After reading some of these posts I'm wondering where some of you hang out because I seldom see anyone full on making out in public. I did accidentally walk up on a couple having sex in a park once but it was like 3am so they weren't trying to put on a show. Another time I stumbled upon a man pleasuring himself on a beach and that was way more disturbing.
I'm actually surprised that hugging or giving a quick peck on the lips bothers people so much. I like to see people happy and in love.
After reading some of these posts I'm wondering where some of you hang out because I seldom see anyone full on making out in public. I did accidentally walk up on a couple having sex in a park once but it was like 3am so they weren't trying to put on a show. Another time I stumbled upon a man pleasuring himself on a beach and that was way more disturbing.
I'm actually surprised that hugging or giving a quick peck on the lips bothers people so much. I like to see people happy and in love.
Yes!
I do not understand this either.
Something is wrong with society if you can not even kiss your loved ones.
And by kissing I do not mean some long french kiss.
Some people are already disgusted when they see people holding hands, I do not get this.
I also look at it from the standpoint of "consent". Did a member of the public, simply by leaving their home, consent to seeing me and my partner playing tonsil hockey in the Target parking lot? Is the average mom or dad going to be trying to shield their kid's eyes as they pass?
To me, just saying "we're so much in love, deal with it" is the epitome of selfishness. Of course you can help yourself. Unless, of course, no one else in the world matters.
I wouldn't shield my kid's eyes if I saw a couple kissing. I would shield them if Fox News was on TV. I guess we're all different.
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