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I have female friends who I don't want to have sex with. It's part of being an adult, appreciating both genders outside of them being sex objects for you.
Men can learn a lot from women as friends, instead of sex partners.
I want to have a boy-friend without having sex. I am wondering if there is any boy out there who can have a relationship with a girl without having sex until the girl feels it is the time!
I like to build a strong friendship with a boy and be sure that our relationship is true love.
Some people may ask for my reasons: I do not like to lose someone whom I have feeling for. So, if sex is involved, the situation becomes even worse.
I'm confused by this post and the title of the thread. They contradict each other.
Aside from that, you won't find anyone who wants to be in a relationship without sex unless it's someone specifically saving themselves for marriage.
And even when having male friends, 99% of your male friends would have sex with you given the chance.
"I won't look at her boobs popping out of her shirt because she's my friend"... Said no guy ever.
May seem blunt but I'm just telling it like it is.
Honest question to the guys then: lately we have seen a lot of posts with men admitting that most guys want sex so badly that they are willing to lie or exaggerate their interest in a committed relationship just to get it. How is a young woman with little or no relationship experience supposed to know she can trust that the guy is for real? Is she supposed to just take her chances? It seems like taking her time would be the obvious answer.
In other words, what advice would you give your daughter?
Honest question to the guys then: lately we have seen a lot of posts with men admitting that most guys want sex so badly that they are willing to lie or exaggerate their interest in a committed relationship just to get it. How is a young woman with little or no relationship experience supposed to know she can trust that the guy is for real? Is she supposed to just take her chances? It seems like taking her time would be the obvious answer.
In other words, what advice would you give your daughter?
Yes, she would have to take her chances, like most women/men have done before her. Relationships isn't something that can't be taught through books/advise, but through personal experience; mistakes will be made along the process, in which one will hopefully learn from. Hopefully.
Honest question to the guys then: lately we have seen a lot of posts with men admitting that most guys want sex so badly that they are willing to lie or exaggerate their interest in a committed relationship just to get it. How is a young woman with little or no relationship experience supposed to know she can trust that the guy is for real? Is she supposed to just take her chances? It seems like taking her time would be the obvious answer.
In other words, what advice would you give your daughter?
Good point. If some of you guys don't like the fact that some women take their time to evaluate a guy and get to know him before making her body available to him, you should consider blaming all the players out there, your fellow dudes. Women learn from experience to be cautious.
Yes, she would have to take her chances, like most women/men have done before her. Relationships isn't something that can't be taught through books/advise, but through personal experience; mistakes will be made along the process, in which one will hopefully learn from.Hopefully.
Exactly. And what they learn from experience is to stop taking their chances willy-nilly, and take their time to get to know a guy before doing some of the most intimate acts known to humankind. IF they're interested in a serious relationship. So, the smart ones choose not to learn from their own experience, but to learn from their sisters' or gf's' experience, and they're cautious from the start. So, no, they don't all have to take their chances. They can learn from others' mistakes.
As a guy, with a now 30 year old daughter, I have had many chats with my daughter on the subject of relationships (although she obviously talks more to Mom about those things ). Being in the Army has greatly affected her ability to have a relationship. She may not worry so much about having or not having sex such as yourself, but in my opinion it makes no difference upon a first meeting with a potential friend+.
I understand it's a "dangerous" world out there, but you can't live life in fear. Instead of over thinking going into a friendship which may or may not become a relationship which may or may not lead to sex, why over think it? Let situations flow, and if uncomfortable, just move on.
Honest question to the guys then: lately we have seen a lot of posts with men admitting that most guys want sex so badly that they are willing to lie or exaggerate their interest in a committed relationship just to get it. How is a young woman with little or no relationship experience supposed to know she can trust that the guy is for real? Is she supposed to just take her chances? It seems like taking her time would be the obvious answer.
In other words, what advice would you give your daughter?
It's two opposite extremes. Men use love to get sex, but women use sex to get love.
The advice I would give my daughter is to be careful and to be very very selective. Think of it as having a cup of sugar. The more sugar you give away, the less you have.
Life is a gamble. People are going to f*ck you over. I can't think of one person who's never been done dirty by someone else. I certainly have. That's just part of life. It's an unfortunate one, but no one is immune to it. This idea of the sweet young innocent woman being played by the bad boy is played out. It goes both ways. The dynamic has changed. Women are now asserting their right to be as promiscuous as men, and now marriage -even love to an extent- is becoming more outdated and harder to find.
Exactly. And what they learn from experience is to stop taking their chances willy-nilly, and take their time to get to know a guy before doing some of the most intimate acts known to humankind. IF they're interested in a serious relationship. So, the smart ones choose not to learn from their own experience, but to learn from their sisters' or gf's' experience, and they're cautious from the start. So, no, they don't all have to take their chances. They can learn from others' mistakes.
I just haven't found that to be reality. Anyone with that mindset isn't ready for a relationship, imo.
Again, relationships and heartbreak/pain/sadness go hand and hand (there's just no way around it). If you ever elect to get into a relationship, you will eventually be subjected to heartbreak (its guaranteed)
Exactly. And what they learn from experience is to stop taking their chances willy-nilly, and take their time to get to know a guy before doing some of the most intimate acts known to humankind. IF they're interested in a serious relationship. So, the smart ones choose not to learn from their own experience, but to learn from their sisters' or gf's' experience, and they're cautious from the start. So, no, they don't all have to take their chances. They can learn from others' mistakes.
This I definitely agree with.
A lot of mistakes I have noticed that people make can be avoided if they simply paid attention. I do agree that in order to TRULY understand it you have to experience it but I think paying attention and using common sense is just as important.
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). Being in the Army has greatly affected her ability to have a relationship. She may not worry so much about having or not having sex such as yourself, but in my opinion it makes no difference upon a first meeting with a potential friend+.
