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Old 12-29-2015, 08:16 PM
 
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Not this time, LOL, she LIKES the Starbucks guy.

Weird, eh? ,

I know...impossible that PUA might not work and instead, real guys being their real selves might grab the girl's interest...say it isn't so.
She likes him. But he hasn't done anything. Their relationship at this point is a pipe dream.

An aggressive guy would have already asked her out and the process would be developing.
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Old 12-29-2015, 08:27 PM
 
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She likes him. But he hasn't done anything. Their relationship at this point is a pipe dream.

An aggressive guy would have already asked her out and the process would be developing.
An aggressive guy may not even have been her type...(shrug) If if if...the point is she likes THIS guy...as he is.

This may not develop and then again if he had muscled in fresh from his PUA seminar emanating testosterone and brilliant negs she may have c-blocked him instantaneously, I mean what good are maybes? She's interested right now, he doesn't need all the games, he must just be naturally attractive.

They seem both interested and apparently both like the pace and maybe the tension and build-up (I would...yum...slow and simmering) so who are you to say this guy stalking in like Rambo and pulling all the moves would have been better? Just let her enjoy this, for goodness sake, it sounds like loads of fun to me, and so cute.
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Old 12-29-2015, 08:36 PM
 
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An aggressive guy may not even have been her type...(shrug) If if if...the point is she likes THIS guy...as he is.

This may not develop and then again if he had muscled in fresh from his PUA seminar emanating testosterone and brilliant negs she may have c-blocked him instantaneously, I mean what good are maybes? She's interested right now, he doesn't need all the games, he must just be naturally attractive.

They seem both interested and apparently both like the pace and maybe the tension and build-up (I would...yum...slow and simmering) so who are you to say this guy stalking in like Rambo and pulling all the moves would have been better? Just let her enjoy this, for goodness sake, it sounds like loads of fun to me, and so cute.
You seem to take issue with PUA strategies and/or tactics. Did some self-proclaimed PUA do something to upset you?

She started a thread about how slow things are to develop, so she's displeased. Nothing has changed.
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Old 12-29-2015, 08:46 PM
 
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OMG...

STOP being chicken.

Hand him a damned business card!

Write your number on HIS hand. On the receipt you sign for the cuppa. Something.

And just get this over with so you can get to the good part. You know...going out.
LOLOLOL that the OP has a business card
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Old 12-29-2015, 10:27 PM
 
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You should also find some other guys instead of fixating on him. Go wear a tight, cleavage showing dress to a bar and sit there for an hour or two. You should get approached a fair amount, and if you go to the right place, you'll meet me real impressive guys if you live in a major metropolitan area.
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Any woman can do this but most of us don't want the "attention" of the quality of man who drunkenly stalks desperate all-alone women in bars sitting there poured into slutsuits. Just keeping it real here.

Doesn't look like this woman is desperate, though, she attracts non drunk, polite, apparently non predatory guys, so...yeah.

Your PUA style advice probably isn't something this lady wants. Or needs. JMO.
i don't need the attention from a bunch of guys especially drunk guys. i totally agree with JerZ. i think that guys who hit on drunk girls at the bar are absolutely obnoxious and weird. most of those relationships usually end being one night stands anyway and that is not what i want.
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Old 12-29-2015, 10:33 PM
 
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This Starbucks guy is a wimp. He hasn't gotten it done. The most aggressive men are the most successful with women.
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Not this time, LOL, she LIKES the Starbucks guy.

Weird, eh? ,

I know...impossible that PUA might not work and instead, real guys being their real selves might grab the girl's interest...say it isn't so.
i don't think that the starbucks guy is a wimp he might just be shy. and to be fair i have not given him that many signs that i am interested in him so he is probably just testing the waters. i started this thread because i wanted to give him a OBVIOUS sign that i like him as well.
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Old 12-29-2015, 10:36 PM
 
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An aggressive guy may not even have been her type...(shrug) If if if...the point is she likes THIS guy...as he is.

This may not develop and then again if he had muscled in fresh from his PUA seminar emanating testosterone and brilliant negs she may have c-blocked him instantaneously, I mean what good are maybes? She's interested right now, he doesn't need all the games, he must just be naturally attractive.

They seem both interested and apparently both like the pace and maybe the tension and build-up (I would...yum...slow and simmering) so who are you to say this guy stalking in like Rambo and pulling all the moves would have been better? Just let her enjoy this, for goodness sake, it sounds like loads of fun to me, and so cute.
i am tired of guys who are so over their head and think that they can get any girl they want. i have dated too many of those guys before and they were just too cocky for me. it is true that i might've turned the guy down if he came on too strong at first. i kinda like the pace of this relationship. i think this would be a cute story to tell people when they ask us how we meet.
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Old 12-30-2015, 06:42 AM
 
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i don't need the attention from a bunch of guys especially drunk guys. i totally agree with JerZ. i think that guys who hit on drunk girls at the bar are absolutely obnoxious and weird. most of those relationships usually end being one night stands anyway and that is not what i want.
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i am tired of guys who are so over their head and think that they can get any girl they want. i have dated too many of those guys before and they were just too cocky for me. it is true that i might've turned the guy down if he came on too strong at first. i kinda like the pace of this relationship. i think this would be a cute story to tell people when they ask us how we meet.
Here's something worth noting, though:

There is at least SOME correlation between the behavior you expect from a guy and the kinds of guys that you're describing in the above posts. Such is the price for having a preference. If you require a guy to make the first move, then you'll only ever find the kind of guys that make the first move...and that's not always a good thing.

Also, (and I'm not the Starbucks guy, so take this with a grain of salt), but at least twice now, you've referred to this as a "relationship"....and you haven't even gone on a date yet. To me, that screams "bunny boiler". It sounds like you're already planning your future family together.

I'm not huge on game playing, but I'm not going to say they don't exist either....and that's something I might try to tone down a bit if I were you. Again, just my opinion.
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Old 12-30-2015, 06:45 PM
 
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Here's something worth noting, though:

There is at least SOME correlation between the behavior you expect from a guy and the kinds of guys that you're describing in the above posts. Such is the price for having a preference. If you require a guy to make the first move, then you'll only ever find the kind of guys that make the first move...and that's not always a good thing.

Also, (and I'm not the Starbucks guy, so take this with a grain of salt), but at least twice now, you've referred to this as a "relationship"....and you haven't even gone on a date yet. To me, that screams "bunny boiler". It sounds like you're already planning your future family together.

I'm not huge on game playing, but I'm not going to say they don't exist either....and that's something I might try to tone down a bit if I were you. Again, just my opinion.
I keep calling this a relationship for the lack of a better word not because I think we are in a relationship.
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Old 01-03-2016, 09:31 PM
 
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UPDATE: I went in to Starbucks on Saturday and he was not there again. I feel like I only see him there when I'm having a really bad day and need someone to make my day better.
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