what to do please help me (guy, friend, beautiful, alcohol)

[RoaminRed]

Originally Posted by tony.jones45

lol you guys are no help at all. i drink pry like 1 time a week. and why in the **** would we want an abortion you jackass. you people are horrible im done with this thread. some people on here are nice and helpful the rest are just horrible people. i know in my gut that this is not over she sees that im getting help and im trying to fix this problem and that is the only time its bad! thanks for that no help!

You can drink only once a week and still be an alcoholic. If you get mean and abusive when you're drunk, you shouldn't be drinking AT ALL. And you think we're horrible...go look in the mirror young man! You have a lot of growing up to do, and you'd better get right on it because you have a child on the way that is going to need a father that isn't a screwed up alcoholic. If you were my son I'd be kicking your butt across the state and back again, so hard that you'd feel my foot up in your throat.

Grow up. You aren't going to get a lot of second chances, so you'd better try hard to get one.

[SuziSu]

So glad we could not help.

[tony.jones45]

yeah youre right, i asked for help and i got it but the thing is that one guy just made me mad when he said that she should abort it that was a horrible thing to say. i know that what i did was horrible too. yeah im going to take this advice and run with it while i can and not look back before its too late. i just want to be nothing but the best dad ever. is there atleast anything i can say to her to get her to text me back or call me or something?? im trying my hardest i go to counseling and everything now , its only been a few times but atleast i started that right? and yes you people are right i shouldnt drink at all if thats how its going to be and i cant be drinking at all with a kid on the way or even when it gets here. anything else to say?

[tony.jones45]

and yes im going to try my hardest to get atleast one more chance with her bc i think tha if she was as invested as hshe says she will be back and see that im doing all i can to help my self and be a better person to not only her bc i was really realy sweet to her when i wasnt drinking but to the kid as well!

[RoaminRed]

Originally Posted by tony.jones45

yeah youre right, i asked for help and i got it but the thing is that one guy just made me mad when he said that she should abort it that was a horrible thing to say. i know that what i did was horrible too. yeah im going to take this advice and run with it while i can and not look back before its too late. i just want to be nothing but the best dad ever. is there atleast anything i can say to her to get her to text me back or call me or something?? im trying my hardest i go to counseling and everything now , its only been a few times but atleast i started that right? and yes you people are right i shouldnt drink at all if thats how its going to be and i cant be drinking at all with a kid on the way or even when it gets here. anything else to say?

If you keep pushing her now, you'll just push her away completely. Relax, take a deep breath, concentrate on YOU and how to fix what you need to fix. Eventually, other things will fall back into place if they're meant to be.

[SuziSu]

Well you are doing what you need to. Sounds like you're doing everything right now. I don't really know if there is anything you can say...... Maybe just email her a letter or I guess you could text her too but it sounds better in a letter. Maybe even drop one in her mailbox. Tell her what you are doing for yourself now. Tell her that you are trying to better yourself for the baby. I know that is most likely what she wants to hear. As long as you are getting help for yourself then you can tell her that. I don't know if she will take you back right away but like I said before, it is very scary to have a baby alone and I know she wants you there. She is just fed up now. She needs to know you have changed. And she needs to be SURE of it.

[tony.jones45]

ive texted her and called her numerous times and she always answered them before she came over that one day and then i asked her to come over later if she had time and she said that she didnt know and she would get back to me and never has .... she knows that im going to counseling and all of that what else could she want? she told me if you didnt read this before that if she just came back to me now that i would get what i want and nothing would be done to fix it and maybe she thinks that to just by talking to me now, that i will be getting what i want and im not really thinking about what i need to fix this problem bc i really do know that she wants to be with me forever and just wants that to stop.. what do you people think of that?

[RoaminRed]

Originally Posted by tony.jones45

ive texted her and called her numerous times and she always answered them before she came over that one day and then i asked her to come over later if she had time and she said that she didnt know and she would get back to me and never has .... she knows that im going to counseling and all of that what else could she want? she told me if you didnt read this before that if she just came back to me now that i would get what i want and nothing would be done to fix it and maybe she thinks that to just by talking to me now, that i will be getting what i want and im not really thinking about what i need to fix this problem bc i really do know that she wants to be with me forever and just wants that to stop.. what do you people think of that?

I think she's right on the money.

[tony.jones45]

oh and i did email her along like 5 page letter

[tony.jones45]

so just leave her alone and give her some space or what? and do you think that shes trying to make me give her that so we can both think of what to do and things like that or what??