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I'm just going to address all the posters who say it is all in my head the reason I can't get dates. I'm honestly telling you, girls don't even get that close to me enough to get into my head. They all take one look at my appearance as a black 6'5 300+ lbs fat guy and their body language is like "hell naw, this guy isn't attractive and I ain't dating him." Mind you, I haven't even had the chance to talk to them at this point. Say it is all in my head you want, but I'm not just imagining the rejection.
Do you mind me asking if your doing anything that will boost your confidence when it comes to the women for example gym?
I only ask as you have some qualities about you that I'm sure women would like about you mate.
I'm just going to address all the posters who say it is all in my head the reason I can't get dates. I'm honestly telling you, girls don't even get that close to me enough to get into my head. They all take one look at my appearance as a black 6'5 300+ lbs fat guy and their body language is like "hell naw, this guy isn't attractive and I ain't dating him." Mind you, I haven't even had the chance to talk to them at this point. Say it is all in my head you want, but I'm not just imagining the rejection.
Have you gained weight since you joined? I remember you had a pic of yourself, and you looked like a football player, which is not something I'd call "fat". Big--yes. Weight is something you can fix (I know you know that). I can see how you might be intimidating to some women, but some women like that type. Otherwise football players and boxers wouldn't have gf's.
You're a work-in-progress, Diss. First you got yourself a BA, pretty much through sheer determination, I have the impression, and that got you a job. Then you went to school to better that job. Now, you're working on fine-tuning the weight. Step by step, you'll get there. You'll get tired of me saying, "patience", but.... what other choice is there? Good luck, I know you can do this, Diss. Step by step wins the race.
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Have you gained weight since you joined? I remember you had a pic of yourself, and you looked like a football player, which is not something I'd call "fat". Big--yes. Weight is something you can fix (I know you know that). I can see how you might be intimidating to some women, but some women like that type. Otherwise football players and boxers wouldn't have gf's.
You're a work-in-progress, Diss. First you got yourself a BA, pretty much through sheer determination, I have the impression, and that got you a job. Then you went to school to better that job. Now, you're working on fine-tuning the weight. Step by step, you'll get there. You'll get tired of me saying, "patience", but.... what other choice is there? Good luck, I know you can do this, Diss. Step by step wins the race.
Joined? Well, I gained 60 pounds from 2012 until earlier this year. I actually lost the 60 I gained.
Again this seems like a sore spot for you. And what's with your disdain for single people and being single in general. Has this been something that has personally happened to you or something?
Again, I already conceded to being a hypothetical toad, the ugly chic in the room, a -25 on a 1 to 10 scale... now address the points and questions I raised, if you can. Or don't
I'm not getting from BrowningPoeFrost that she has something against singles. She's addressing the issue of some people emphasizing looks in their search for a partner, to the point that personality doesn't register much on their radar, or not enough to influence their perceptions of someone's attractiveness. That's certainly relevant to this discussion/thread topic.
However, now that a couple of posters have clarified their positions on that, I can see how with some guys, it's not necessarily about "hotties", exactly. Still, I can't really relate to it. I'm with Dewdrop, who said that the guys she meets are, for her, blank slates until she gets to know them.
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Not trolling the thread, don't care what others do it's their business, I'm simply stating an opinion that is dissenting among this thread, so what that doesn't make it trolling. Nor does it invalidate anything I've said. Live your life the way you want.
If you "don't care" so much, why have you restated your opinion so much?
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