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This is the old "it's not you, it's me" excuse. He is nice to let you down easy rather than rip your heart out of your chest. Always remember that if a man really likes you he will do anything to be with you. If this guy wants to "take a break" from you, it's a done deal. He's gone. Listen to your therapist and move on.
But why would he do that? I mean we were great together. Things were great, only thing that wasn't great was him going through all this divorce stuff. So are you saying you think there is like absolutely no chance of us ever working it out and getting back together??
Why would he leave that door open then? I mean I have been heartbroken a million times so this one would be crappy but nothing that I am not familiar with. I don't know why he would say he wants to make me his gf when he is divorced, if he didn't mean it? Sorry I am not trying to be difficult I just want clarity, because I really really really want this to work so badly.
No one knows for certain if it is the ABSOLUTE end. But that's not what you should be concerned with. He wants a break, which means he NEEDS you to back off.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
.... I really really really want this to work so badly.
sorry I think its a crappy thing to say to someone. I don't know about you but I would rather someone just be honest. I mean think about it. If you were really into someone, like it might go someplace serious...do you want to spend time away from them at all?
sorry I think its a crappy thing to say to someone. I don't know about you but I would rather someone just be honest. I mean think about it. If you were really into someone, like it might go someplace serious...do you want to spend time away from them at all?
If I was still married I might need total time away from them
No one knows for certain if it is the ABSOLUTE end. But that's not what you should be concerned with. He wants a break, which means he NEEDS you to back off.
Why?
Yeah I do need to take a step back I guess. Ugh thats so stressful like what am I going to do!? I am freaking out, how boring, what if I don't meet someone? How long can I wait for him to get his life together? Can I check in like maybe monthly? He said he would keep me updated about his divorce and stuff. I am really just freaking out so much right now.
Why do I really want it to work? Because we were great together, because I am almost 25 with out any serious relationship, because I want to be married soon and have a family and he could be my person who gives me marriage and babies, because I have CP and use a cane and even though I guess I am pretty guys aren't like lining up to date me, because if I go back online I have to weed through douchey men who want to have sex with me but won't call back after and it was nice to have someone who wasn't like that, because if I decide not to use online dating then I will just be twiddling my thumbs waiting on someone to be interested in me and hoping they are a decent man who wants a family (and since I am almost 25 and I have been waiting on that for like the last 5 years I am not super hopeful it'll happen even with the help of every single dating website I didn't find it until him), and being that I am in grad school (and I am an idiot who picked a female dominated career) there aren't a ton of men in my classes and I am terrified that I am graduating in May and I will not find someone in my work (where ever that ends up being).
I also don't believe I can be happy if I never get to experience marriage and having a baby and so I need for it to happen. I really don't want to be an "old" wife and mother and I am already like knocking on 25's door.
If I was still married I might need total time away from them
Only if you had unfinished business with your ex and weren't fully feelings strongly for your new mate. Im sorry. Keep looking...don't be a girl waiting on a hook if he decides he wants you to come running back. Chances are, he isn't as into you as you are in to him.
Think about how strongly you feel for him. How badly does it hurt to be away from him. That is how a strong start feels. He sent feeling it.
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I think its a crappy thing to say to someone. I don't know about you but I would rather someone just be honest. I mean think about it. If you were really into someone, like it might go someplace serious...do you want to spend time away from them at all?
