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well in my case, not chasing doesn't work because I don't ever encounter any easy/natural dating opportunities
but then chasing doesn't work because the women are never interested so what's the answer?
You aren't picking the right women or haven't found the right woman to chase yet, that's all. If we all picked the right person at the first we'd be married in high school!
Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you
The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move
how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?
Well men that chase/pursue women and don't actually care about them are only after one thing .
From a women's perspective I assume they like to be chased as it shows the man is making the extra effort?
It's a hard question to answer if honest as all men and women are very different and have different requirements and expectations........
Once again you have already been given the answer yet you gloss right past it. *Some* women will like the chase *others* will not.Much like everything in life, sometimes things go your way, sometimes they don't. One small detail for you to ponder: Just because you are interested in the woman you chase does not mean the woman you chase is interested in you.
^^This is it in a nutshell and cannot be any clearer.
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You aren't picking the right women or haven't found the right woman to chase yet, that's all. If we all picked the right person at the first we'd be married in high school!
And isn't this one of life's greatest joys, the chase? The discovery? The experiences and the growth? Life would be so boring if we paired up perfectly with the first person we dated like some post-apocalyptic YA "let's leave it to the teenagers to save our world" novel(yes, I read YA from time to time, don't judge).
you cant approach every woman the same way. you have to taylor your approach to the individual. when you start to see women as individuals, and not try to paint them as a whole group, you will be more successful with them.
second, as long as you treat women like objects to be lusted after, you will again not be successful, so treat them like human beings who have their own wants and needs.
third, most guys try too hard and want to move too fast, so relax and slow down. take your time, treat her like you would your best friend. respect her wishes and wants. if she walks away, let her go. you need to make her feel comfortable around you in order to be successful.
Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you
The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move
how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?
These two things aren't mutually exclusive. You can approach a woman for a date without caring if she says no.
you cant approach every woman the same way. you have to taylor your approach to the individual. when you start to see women as individuals, and not try to paint them as a whole group, you will be more successful with them.
second, as long as you treat women like objects to be lusted after, you will again not be successful, so treat them like human beings who have their own wants and needs.
third, most guys try too hard and want to move too fast, so relax and slow down. take your time, treat her like you would your best friend. respect her wishes and wants. if she walks away, let her go. you need to make her feel comfortable around you in order to be successful.
The middle paragraph is subjective based upon the guy in questions appearance. A former friend lusted after many women and had them even while having girlfriends and a fiance while I had none. That's life though.
Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you
The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move
how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?
Generally if you are pursuing someone than you care what they're response is. If a man gets the courage to ask a lady out, they generally don't take rejection very well. This is what you are referring to as 'not caring' as you pursue someone. Let it roll off the back and don't get emotionally invested.
So as others said, the idea is to pursue but learn to handle rejection. Go in without any expectations and be willing to move on to the next one the lady you're pursuing is not into you.
'Don't care' I think is referring to a more easy approach.
Like, 'Holy Crap she's sooooo hot!!!' You then relax and play it cool like you don't really notice she is a smoking 10 or care that she is. IMO
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