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What? You never heard of someone being on their best behavior in order to woo a mate, then their behavior changes once the deal is sealed? Seriously?
That can happen for a lot of reasons, but it most certainly can be related to love languages.
My husband appeared adept at all 5 languages until we got married. ( I didn't know that at the time, I just thought he was a good guy who loved me). I was probably not so well rounded. Then he suddenly wanted us to speak to each other using the languages that worked for his parents. Caught me off guard, to say the least! He said to me, on many occasions, that he had been expecting me to CHANGE when we were married.
I'm not saying that if I'd had that book at the time, it would have saved my marriage. Quite the contrary. If I'd had the book I would have held it up as PROOF that if we could just learn these languages, we'd be okay. I was very naive about the limits of his stubborn narcissism.
But reading that book did change my life. It shed light on the nature of all my relationships, and has helped me become more self-aware about how I treat others, and about what I expect of others.
Don't take my word for it, just visit the website to get an idea. Of course, it is not going to resonate for everyone, and that's okay.
Thanks for posting that link now I've got a better understanding of it
This is my score , words of affirmation is my strongest point, with physical touch and quality time a close second. I do love a compliment or 6 ( ) , and certainly enjoy touching/hugging etc plus spending quality time together is spot on for me.
I know I'm not the best at receiving gifts or don't really like her to run errands for me with the acts of service.
I'm quite surprised it's not far short from being spot on Infact
Am I the only one who thinks "the love languages" is completely and utterly stupid?
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Wh do you think it's stupid? It's a pretty common sense idea that people show love in different ways and that doesn't always jive with how someone prefers to receive love. A lot of basic human interactions can go awry if you're only considering things from your perspective and not another's.
I believe people do show love in different ways, but the phrase itself makes me cringe. lol
Thanks for posting that link now I've got a better understanding of it
This is my score , words of affirmation is my strongest point, with physical touch and quality time a close second. I do love a compliment or 6 ( ) , and certainly enjoy touching/hugging etc plus spending quality time together is spot on for me.
I know I'm not the best at receiving gifts or don't really like her to run errands for me with the acts of service.
I'm quite surprised it's not far short from being spot on Infact
That was fun. Words of Affirmation was my highest too.
Someone gave me that book quite a few years ago, and as much as my rational side wants to dismiss it as touchy-feely or hokey... I think there's something to it. If no other reason than it explains why two people as different as the Mr. and I can get on so well: sharing the same love languages (which in our case would be Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation). We've both got similar baggage with not having a foundation of healthy loving parental relationships, and there's a great deal of insecurity and low self-worth that comes along with that. Be able to instinctively know what the other needs, without having to spell it out, helps to kind of fill in those gaps.
Never read the book, but took the test before. I don't think I need the whole book as the premise made sense to me, though I hadn't thought about it before.
I'm horrible at words of affirmation, and much more comfortable with acts of service.
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Never read the book, but took the test before. I don't think I need the whole book as the premise made sense to me, though I hadn't thought about it before.
I'm horrible at words of affirmation, and much more comfortable with acts of service.
Yeah I just jumped into the quiz and thought it would give a percentage of some sort like I keep reading on here with dating sites for example 93%-95%.
Basically telling you if your any good or not LOL.
To be fair my test was quite accurate of myself in reality ( for better or worse )
Every time I see this thread I picture some old broken down horse..........10 minutes late for the glue factory.
Elmers is calling this thread.
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) , and certainly enjoy touching/hugging etc plus spending quality time together is spot on for me. 
