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People should do whatever they want. IMO it's generally a bad idea if you want a LTR, though.
From a guy's perspective, and I know this may sound sexist, but I really need a bit of a challenge in that regard. I am honestly less attracted to a woman if she indicates sexual availability right from the get-go.
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Originally Posted by Londoncowboy30
If it happens great, if not no problem
Personally I much rather if I was made to wait as the " chase " I LOVE it!
I've also thought that if I were a guy, I'd like it more if there were more of a challenge involved. lol!
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Originally Posted by JerZ
I have done it but wouldn't recommend it. Not if you're looking for anything more than that one night. Not that it's impossible for it to ever work out but come on. There are a whole lot of people in this world, all of them very different from one another and most of them very different from you. What are your odds of just happening to sleep immediately with someone who is going to wind up being long term material for you, specifically? Comparatively low. So why just jump from one person to the next (unless that's what you're into and have no desire for longer term)?
Honestly it shouldn't be incredibly hard to wait a few dates and feel out whether the person is an axe murderer or not. I really can't believe that's impossible to do. There's a reason God gave us two hands, boys and girls. One is for the computer mouse...
I don't consider myself a prude. At all. I have quite a healthy sex drive, and then some. But I'm not stupid. That person you just met three days ago online could be anybody. Literally. So I vote no in general (there could be the rare exception) to immediate sex with basically a stranger.
You know, it must be a result of "maturity," but the thought of that now terrifies me. lol Wasn't always the case.
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Originally Posted by newdixiegirl
Exactly! Building the sexual tension is fun and a major turn on. It's part of the "dance" of getting to know someone you're really into. It's not just men who like the "chase," either. I'm much more attracted to men who appreciate and know how to savor that "courtship" ritual a little.
Perfunctory sex just to to "get it out of the way"? Good grief. I'm bored just thinking about it.
Very well put. I agree completely.
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
Sure, just as long as I'm not the one receiving it.
When I was younger like most men I was P hound and the sooner the better when it came to sex. I think as I've gotten older I've sort of backed off of that approach a bit. I think I'd probably prefer to not have sex too soon, I think a few dates of just getting to know her would be the approach I'd take now, if I were single.
When I was younger like most men I was P hound and the sooner the better when it came to sex. I think as I've gotten older I've sort of backed off of that approach a bit. I think I'd probably prefer to not have sex too soon, I think a few dates of just getting to know her would be the approach I'd take now, if I were single.
When I was younger like most men I was P hound and the sooner the better when it came to sex.
Several sex organ words start with "P", but we all know what you mean Chow.
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That person you just met three days ago online could be anybody. Literally. So I vote no in general (there could be the rare exception) to immediate sex with basically a stranger.
