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Old 02-06-2008, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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Finally someone expressing what I've always known...that sociopaths are fueled by sex with no regard to gender. It's all about control and pleasure.

Anyone that has any experience with people like this will appreciate this read. My best friend found out her husband was gay (he was only sleeping with men.) While I dated a man that I found out was sleeping with as many as 10 women at a time and was meeting strange men online for afternoon sex. We later figured out he is a hermaphrodite. He affected a masculine persona and charm (a voice that could melt steel) to fool even the most intelligent of women.

Fasinating article on LoveFraud about sociopaths being neither gay or straight.
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Old 02-06-2008, 08:45 AM
 
Location: Boy, giraffes are selfish, just runnin’ around looking out for number one.
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Hello and good morning !

How interesting. I just read it and it makes a lot of sense. I believe that this is just as true for women who are sociopaths. Sex and power. I know one woman that craves any kind of authority, to the point that it's scary. Most people in general would be shocked if they knew how many of these conscienceless souls live amongst us.

If you're not sure if you're dealing with a true sociopath, here is a link that gives a nice clear description.
Profile of the Sociopath

I really hope this helps someone.

Signed,
The best friend that found out her husband was gay.
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Old 02-06-2008, 09:05 AM
 
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Gay sociopaths will have sex with gay men.

Straight sociopaths will have sex with women.

Bi-sexual sociopaths will have sex with BOTH men and women.

Since people are born gay, they cannot control their hard-wired impulse to sleep with people they will be attracted to.

Of course, this article was written by a dumb woman who was too stupid to figure out whether her future mate was a homosexual. Any man who says to his fiance/girlfriend "there is not a gay bone in my body!", is in fact, gay. Unfortuntaly, Donna Anderson is a moron.
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Old 02-06-2008, 09:07 AM
 
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Gay sociopaths will have sex with gay men.

Straight sociopaths will have sex with women.

Bi-sexual sociopaths will have sex with BOTH men and women.

Since people are born gay, they cannot control their hard-wired impulse to sleep with people they will be attracted to.

Of course, this article was written by a dumb woman who was too stupid to figure out whether her future mate was a homosexual. Any man who says to his fiance/girlfriend "there is not a gay bone in my body!", is in fact, gay. Unfortuntaly, Donna Anderson is a moron.
"In a Nutshell"
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Old 02-06-2008, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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Gay sociopaths will have sex with gay men.

Straight sociopaths will have sex with women.

Bi-sexual sociopaths will have sex with BOTH men and women.

Since people are born gay, they cannot control their hard-wired impulse to sleep with people they will be attracted to.

Of course, this article was written by a dumb woman who was too stupid to figure out whether her future mate was a homosexual. Any man who says to his fiance/girlfriend "there is not a gay bone in my body!", is in fact, gay. Unfortunately, Donna Anderson is a moron.
I can't agree. My own experience and after reading some of the responses on the article page is that these (primarily men) are so messed up that they do not pay too much attention to who or what they are having a sex act with.

I believe people are born gay, but what the article is saying is that sociopaths are not gay or straight...they are like animals. It's not a bisexual anything, it's a sexual....they don't care what gender.

And as far as your comment about Donna Anderson...I know a sociopath that could fool anyone; so basically you are calling me a moron and my friend and we are two smart cookies. (Not taken on the defense to your offense; once you've survived one of these socios...you can take anything.)

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Old 02-06-2008, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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I know this is a tough topic, but it happens to be the one thing that I know way too much about.

I am not a feminist. In 1980, I assumed that all men were like my father and I would find a good man that would enhance and support my passion for being a domestic goddess and mother. That did not happen, in fact, my friends and I, some how, have encountered and survived our share of men with valueless sexualities. They value no one and nothing and will go great lengths to put it in anywhere. It is those freaks of nature and society and technology that the article and I address.

I would also like to offer another fantastic Vanity Fair article about the descendants of the Bounty mutineers. It exposes what can happen in a lawless sex ruled society.

A telling Vanity Fair article about life on Pitcairn Island.

As far as sociopaths, whenever I start reading about spousal homicides, you never see anything addressing the killer's sexuality. Those people are so imprisoned by their sexual perversions, that they would never think of using them as a psychological defense. They would rather risk life in prison or the death penalty then admit that they have a mental illness.
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Old 02-06-2008, 11:17 AM
 
Location: In the woods next to the ocean
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While I dated a man that I found out was sleeping with as many as 10 women at a time and was meeting strange men online for afternoon sex. We later figured out he is a hermaphrodite.
Since a hermaphrodite has both male and female genitalia, you must not have had a very intimate relationship to have missed this about the guy.

Do you suppose those other ten women and those strange men caught this little detail?
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Old 02-06-2008, 11:43 AM
 
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Great article.....I'm ashamed to say, I've been attracted to these kind of men, and no longer trust my judgement when it comes to men and relationships. So, I choose to be single, cause they can drive you literally over the edge....

here are some characterists.....

PERSONALITY TRAITS:


1. SUPERFICIAL CHARM -- the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, and slick. Not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. He never gets tongue-tied and has freed himself from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH -- a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. An arrogant guy who believes he is a superior human being.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION (PRONENESS TO BOREDOM) -- an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Often has low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because he gets bored easily.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING -- can be moderate or high; in moderate form, and will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever (in extreme form, he will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest).

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS -- the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one's victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT -- a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT -- emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.


8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY -- a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE -- an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS -- expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests

12. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS -- an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

13. IMPULSIVITY -- the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

14. IRRESPONSIBILITY -- repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

15. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS -- a failure to accept responsibility for one's actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

16. MANY SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS -- a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

17. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY -- behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

18. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY -- A diversity of types of criminal offenses (regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them); taking great pride at getting away with crimes.

These people feel good about themselves, ONLY when they are in a new relationship.....and are very dangerous to your mental health and well being....they make you feel absolutely lousy about yourself...and, I was to polite to say, "Go take a hick" instead, I stood there and took all this abuse....so, I'm to blame as well.

Although, I didn't ask for someone to treat me so unfairly....

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Old 02-06-2008, 11:56 AM
 
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Gay sociopaths will have sex with gay men.

Straight sociopaths will have sex with women.

Bi-sexual sociopaths will have sex with BOTH men and women.

Since people are born gay, they cannot control their hard-wired impulse to sleep with people they will be attracted to.

Of course, this article was written by a dumb woman who was too stupid to figure out whether her future mate was a homosexual. Any man who says to his fiance/girlfriend "there is not a gay bone in my body!", is in fact, gay. Unfortuntaly, Donna Anderson is a moron.
People are not born gay? sorry, I don't believe it....and there is not a gay bone in my body, but I am not gay....I do know and have friends men/women who are not gay....so I suggest you not assume everyone is like what you believe or thinks and feels like you do. You cannot generalize society as such.....
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Old 02-06-2008, 12:25 PM
 
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I have encountered more than my fair share of people who have a number of the characteristics in the "profile".
They manipulate conversations and take pleasure in twisting others words.

They have issues with impulse control and randomly lash out, then turn the charm on again in an attempt to keep the "prey" engaged and wondering if in fact the problem is with them. This is a very affective tool when used against those who believe in giving others the benefit of the doubt.

They have contempt for those who show emotion and abide by societies laws.

They do not understand the concept of "worry" or "regret".

They can sense when the "prey" is suspicious and if they are not yet bored with them, the charm will be turned on again in an attempt to draw them back in.

They do not like to have their integrity questioned and will get very defensive and play the victim card.
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