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My guess is that the OP is barely squeaking by getting the rent in late and paying utilities as they're being shut off. It's the most likely explanation for why he's being booted out of his housing. This is a crisis because the OP has no way of scraping up first, last, and security deposit on a new apartment. "I can't date" really means the only possible way of not living in a cardboard box in June is to completely stop any discretionary spending. I suspect that when you're in that position, you're not thinking about anything rationally. Your income stream likely also sucks, mostly because your behavior at work is similar to your behavior in your private life.
The rational thing any grown-up would say is, "My housing situation is vaporizing on me soon. I need to really dial back my spending so I can afford to move. I'm going to be a pretty low budget date until I get it sorted out."
My guess is that the OP is barely squeaking by getting the rent in late and paying utilities as they're being shut off. It's the most likely explanation for why he's being booted out of his housing. This is a crisis because the OP has no way of scraping up first, last, and security deposit on a new apartment. "I can't date" really means the only possible way of not living in a cardboard box in June is to completely stop any discretionary spending. I suspect that when you're in that position, you're not thinking about anything rationally. Your income stream likely also sucks, mostly because your behavior at work is similar to your behavior in your private life.
The rational thing any grown-up would say is, "My housing situation is vaporizing on me soon. I need to really dial back my spending so I can afford to move. I'm going to be a pretty low budget date until I get it sorted out."
This. Honestly if a man said what the op said the last thing I would be doing is talking about free events like the ops date said . I would be instantly turned off because it indicates that he's most likely broke asf and has poor life coping skills. Put hold on dating while it takes you close to 6 months to figure out where to live?
It indicates that op is someone who probably consistently gets into dramatic messy situations where they lose all footing... And two date is not any investment on my end yet, there would be no reason for me to continue dating or wonder how you felt, because the only thing I would be thinking is that you don't have your life together and I would not want to date you because of it.
I feel for you op. I know men like you and unfortunately their lives are pretty crappy, constantly in bad luck financial situations that just "happen" and it takes them ages to climb out and they just can't get their s*** together every time it happens. It's unfortunate for you but I honestly think it's best you do place a hold on dating.... From your op I just get this feeling that you need to get more stable before you date.
It's not the moving process it's me finding an affordable price in a low crime area
You clearly have internet, it's not that hard to find a place. I have moved from states to a new place, which is even harder than you moving to a new place in the same city, as when you do this from out of state, you typically get a lot of, "you need to be here" because they don't want to make any agreements without meeting you. And I've been able to do that in less than a week.
If you want something enough, you make it work. Essentially you're telling this girl that you can't handle even the smallest of issues, and then you put it on her as if she's going to cause you more grief. She listened to your ridiculous excuse and still gave you a chance by talking about all of the free events there are to do. You don't look for a place to live 24/7, and no it does not take that much energy to find a new place.
But what does it matter? She hung up on you. She got the message. You told her if she doesn't want to wait that you would understand...so what's the point of this thread?
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LMAO!! 
