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Guys want original and spontaneous pics because they are bothered by getting a pic that another man may have seen?
I don't know, being involved with older people (some have resisted even going to smart phone tech)...I don't deal with this. I'd find it hugely offputting for a lover to ask for pics of anything spontaneously when we are apart, it's like they are trying to intrude in my life even when we aren't together. I wouldn't like it, at all. You do not own me and you do not get to peek into my world anytime you want, and I won't be bothered to cater to this nonsense. I'm busy.
I had a man I'd briefly dated (didn't work out because he travels constantly for work) who would constantly text me pics of whatever caught his eye as he was out and about...usually flowers, occasionally a squirrel or a selfie or something. I found that awkward and I didn't really like it either and I never responded with pics. At first I would ask what kind of flower is that, or say "Nice!" or something...eventually just stopped responding. That whole thing is weird to me. I much prefer actual conversation.
I agree, I've dated my share of older men, and they have never asked me to send a pic. It usually only happens with the 35 and under crowd.
If it's not for its not for you its good that you didn't " give in "
Can I ask were the fellas you refer to from online dating or ones you've actually met in person and possibly gone out with?
I've never done old, so they are men I met in person. Sometimes they asked for just face selfies but a lot of the time when they asked me to send a picture it was always alluded that it be sexy. And one of my friends schooled me on what happens when you send a guy a sexy pic. He showed me the girls who sent me sexy pics and actually kept the pictures for months after, showed them to his friends, judged their body, etc. I felt sorry for the poor girls because they sent him a$$ shots not knowing how much of a douche he was.
I'm kind of hypocrite though because in the past I've requested d*** pics lol. The guys always send them right away lol! A lot of guys get off on that lol. Funny too because when guys used to send those types of pics to me and my friends we'd show the pics to each other and keep the pics too. Now that I'm older I know better--most people hold on to selfies, especially ones that are compromising.
So I will only send face selfies if a guy asks me. But if he's asking too often or when I don't feel like taking a pic I won't send them.
Wow, I guess playing with oneself to instantly delivered selfies from some girl is the new "dating"? LOL...I am SURE with my terrible attitude I'll be missing out on oodles of future non-dates with guys who can't be bothered to so much as perform the T-shirt sniff test before leaving their home to go out for, I don't know, real coffee or anything...my loss...please feel free to pity me.
Or, if you want to see more of me, we could always, you know, get out of the house and meet one another. Physically. Yeah. Really. No, I'm not kidding. As in: drag yourself AWAY from your computer and go OUT of your house to see me in full 3D, plus motion. It is really such a cool concept.
Now. If I LIKE you? If you've put forth ANY sort of effort to get to know me? If you didn't forget to delete the HTML code before copying and pasting your request to see "more of" me? If we have more of a history than "Yeh so kewl I saw yer pic, you R SO HOT I mean that, rlly beautiful can I have more pics PLZ PLZ"...
Then maybe a pic.
A pic to stare at gape-mouthed just because you got up that morning and breathed? Sorry, LOL! Try again.
I realize I'll be missing out on some SERIOUS gems this way, I guess that's just the beating I'll have to take on this one.
I've never done old, so they are men I met in person. Sometimes they asked for just face selfies but a lot of the time when they asked me to send a picture it was always alluded that it be sexy. And one of my friends schooled me on what happens when you send a guy a sexy pic. He showed me the girls who sent me sexy pics and actually kept the pictures for months after, showed them to his friends, judged their body, etc. I felt sorry for the poor girls because they sent him a$$ shots not knowing how much of a douche he was.
I'm kind of hypocrite though because in the past I've requested d*** pics lol. The guys always send them right away lol! A lot of guys get off on that lol. Funny too because when guys used to send those types of pics to me and my friends we'd show the pics to each other and keep the pics too. Now that I'm older I know better--most people hold on to selfies, especially ones that are compromising.
So I will only send face selfies if a guy asks me. But if he's asking too often or when I don't feel like taking a pic I won't send them.
I have received quite a few pics in my lifetime and I've never showed them to friends. I'm not the type to show pics. It's always been for my eyes only. I did a lot of Peter Pan dating around, so I ended up meeting a lot of women in my years of dating. I actually ask for less pics or no pics these days. I try to stick to just meeting in person and as we date, get to see what I'm interested in, in person. The pic thing is usually for when there's distance between the two or they spend a lot of time apart. It makes sense when you think about it, but I totally understand the crowd that's not into it. My most recent ex wasn't into pics much at all, even just selfies or pictures of what she's doing. We spent a good amount of time apart, so those pictures would have made me feel like I was there, even though I wasn't. Dating is one thing, but when you're actively in a relationship with someone, sometimes you need all the help you can get to keep the relationship moving forward. I'm a supporter of pictures in the right context.
So I know this is something silly, but ends up always happening to me when I start seeing someone new and I guess I can chalk it up to the camera phone age we live in. Last night I was texting with a guy I've been out once with, and we were joking around about this new mop I bought, so he asked for a picture of the mop, which I sent. His response was "kinda hoping you'd be in the pic though ", which is nice to hear, but honestly I don't feel like taking a picture of myself when I get home from a long day of work, it's not sexy and I would really rather him not see me that way just yet. But I can't say all that, so I ended up saying something stupid like next time I'll mop I'll send him one.
This always happens to me though, the guy implies he would like you to send him a selfie (I'm not talking nude pics or anything racy, that would be a different thread lol), and I feel I'm put in a funny position, because if I brush it off with a no, then I'll be viewed as uptight, but I'm also not the type of girl who sends selfies all the time to the guy I'm dating (I had a friend who would do that all the time, she would just snap pics of herself all day long and send them to her bf, it would annoy me to no end!).
So was just wondering if any of you ladies get such type of requests, and how do you respond if you don't want to send a pic, without making the guy think you're uptight?
Not in a million, bazillion years would I ever in a million, bazillion years send a selfie on demand in a million, bazillion years. Absolutely not. Selfies are the worst photos people can take of themselves. They distort the face, have only two options ("beauty face" fakery and HD-show-every-damn-pore) and just, ugh. If we've been out, he knows what I look like. No need to have me in his phone unless we're out somewhere and he has someone else take a picture of us together. (There! A pic of me no other man has!)
Just to be a PITA about him being a PITA, I'd take a picture of the mop with my hand giving a thumb's up, or maybe something absolutely stupid like leaning it against my elbow. "There, I'm in the pic."
If he thinks I'm uptight, he can go find someone else to treat like a Barbie doll he can pose on demand.
I think some guys push the pics too soon period, whether they are nude selfies or "nice" ones, from what I hear some guys are quick to send the famous D pics too.
UGH!
No, no, no, no, NO! Standard response my friends and I give to that is, "Is that all you have to offer a woman?" Let the fool take it however he wants. Keep that unsolicited pornography out of my phone, because let's call it what it is: unsolicited pornography.
See, this is why when I do date, I make it clear I don't text, period. It has been my experience that people get carried away with it.
No, no, no, no, NO! Standard response my friends and I give to that is, "Is that all you have to offer a woman?" Let the fool take it however he wants. Keep that unsolicited pornography out of my phone, because let's call it what it is: unsolicited pornography.
See, this is why when I do date, I make it clear I don't text, period. It has been my experience that people get carried away with it.
My ex sent me one, I thought that was totally odd.
Text:
Me: That's not you, yours isn't that big.
Him: It's me!
Me: Huh. I guess the camera really does add 10 lbs.
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I've never done old, so they are men I met in person. Sometimes they asked for just face selfies but a lot of the time when they asked me to send a picture it was always alluded that it be sexy. And one of my friends schooled me on what happens when you send a guy a sexy pic. He showed me the girls who sent me sexy pics and actually kept the pictures for months after, showed them to his friends, judged their body, etc. I felt sorry for the poor girls because they sent him a$$ shots not knowing how much of a douche he was.
I'm kind of hypocrite though because in the past I've requested d*** pics lol. The guys always send them right away lol! A lot of guys get off on that lol. Funny too because when guys used to send those types of pics to me and my friends we'd show the pics to each other and keep the pics too. Now that I'm older I know better--most people hold on to selfies, especially ones that are compromising.
So I will only send face selfies if a guy asks me. But if he's asking too often or when I don't feel like taking a pic I won't send them.
Sorry for delay faith I just got this
Yes I'm the same with OLD never done it, and I DO enjoy sending and receiving them ( not my D though and I'll tell you why in a minute ) and yes I've been guilty of showing them girls off with the boys in the pub etc but I've also been the victim. But they were only one nighters, ones that I would never see again but that was in my younger days also .
The reason I won't send a D pic is all because of what happened to a poor apprentice years ago.......... On a construction site he had to go to the toilet and a " friend " asked " can I use your phone whilst your gone? " so he handed over the phone and went away. Now his mate rang someone and then went through his pictures/ texts in the hope of winding him up and....... JACKPOT!..... He saw he was texting a girl and sending her D pics, he's burst out laughing and showed about 20 men the picture ( ).......... 10 minutes later the apprentice came back and everyone laughed at him!!!!. He went bright red to say the least LMAO.
Now that was enough to put me off but I have female friends and have been with them when they were showing each other D pics that they received, plus 2 of the girls on here mentioned they did the same!....... ( I can't remember who but remember they are quite senior on here ) but that was funny and laughed like mad when I read it
There was only one time I ever actually appreciated a pic of a man's junk. I was sitting at work, at my desk, we're in cubicles and there are people behind and around me. I was on and off texting with a male...friend. Person. We were snarking each other a little, both just kind of bored. He knew I was at work. And he sent me a pic of his, as I'm sitting there with my phone held kind of upright to get a signal and anyone might have seen it.
Granted, that maybe could have got me in trouble, but the coworkers right around me have a decent sense of humor so probably not. I quickly hid my phone anyways and laughed about it.
Oddly the only men who have ever sent me unsolicited D-pics, were lead singers of rock bands. Attention wh**es maybe, just a bit?
So I know this is something silly, but ends up always happening to me when I start seeing someone new and I guess I can chalk it up to the camera phone age we live in. Last night I was texting with a guy I've been out once with, and we were joking around about this new mop I bought, so he asked for a picture of the mop, which I sent. His response was "kinda hoping you'd be in the pic though ", which is nice to hear, but honestly I don't feel like taking a picture of myself when I get home from a long day of work, it's not sexy and I would really rather him not see me that way just yet. But I can't say all that, so I ended up saying something stupid like next time I'll mop I'll send him one.
This always happens to me though, the guy implies he would like you to send him a selfie (I'm not talking nude pics or anything racy, that would be a different thread lol), and I feel I'm put in a funny position, because if I brush it off with a no, then I'll be viewed as uptight, but I'm also not the type of girl who sends selfies all the time to the guy I'm dating (I had a friend who would do that all the time, she would just snap pics of herself all day long and send them to her bf, it would annoy me to no end!).
So was just wondering if any of you ladies get such type of requests, and how do you respond if you don't want to send a pic, without making the guy think you're uptight?
Quite often. I rarely oblige, though.
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. But they were only one nighters, ones that I would never see again but that was in my younger days also 
) but that was funny and laughed like mad when I read it 
