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Old 01-21-2016, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I just get the vibe that he’s not that into me ....
I agree.
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Old 01-21-2016, 02:35 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I've found that if a guy is into you he locks it down pretty quick. They don't like the thought that you could be seeing other guys.
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Old 01-21-2016, 02:48 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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He is either gay or just not that into you.


After 3 months you guys should be madly in love
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Old 01-21-2016, 03:42 PM
 
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I've found that if a guy is into you he locks it down pretty quick. They don't like the thought that you could be seeing other guys.
Agreed!
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Old 01-21-2016, 03:56 PM
 
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Or he might be a virgin and/or very inexperienced despite of what he says. If you are interested try to be a bit more open/aggressive yourself to encourage him. But if he draws back, you have your answer...
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Old 01-21-2016, 04:03 PM
 
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OP:

Busy yourself with other activities that do not involve him.

Wait for him to contact you.

Do not contact him.

If he wants to continue seeing you, then he has to pursue you.

Put the ball in his court.

If he does not do this then you know your answer.
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Old 01-21-2016, 05:07 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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He's not that into you. My husband and I were official in less than two weeks. Don't let this guy string you along.

Find someone else to date.
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Old 01-21-2016, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I just get the vibe that he’s not that into me and Idk if I should bail or give him more time since we’ve been taking things slow. What do you think?
Your female intuition is correct. Everything you described in your post suggests he's just not into you. He's not even infatuated with you. If he was, you would not have to ask him to text you more.

Don't be surprised if he friend zones you. If you like him as a friend what's the hurry to be his girlfriend?
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Old 01-22-2016, 06:13 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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"Not ready" means No. So, no point in waiting around. Definitely stop doing whatever *girlfriend* type things you may have been doing to keep him around (i.e. texting, sex, cooking, massages, errands, etc... ) Whatever it is, cut it out and take 2 steps back.
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Old 01-22-2016, 06:33 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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I’ve been going out with a 23 yo guy for about 3 months (about once to twice per week). He hasn’t dated much and he said his longest relationship was around 6 months. However, he’s not a virgin. He’s been taking things super slow with me. We kissed on the third date and still haven’t gone past 1st base. He used to text me every few days to set up a date. When I told him I’d like to hear from him more often, he’s now texting me at least once every other day but always takes a long time to reply.

He’s a nice guy and I’m attracted to him. He’s introduced me to a couple of his friends and I’ve met some of his. This past weekend, I asked him if he would like to become official, he said he’s not seeing anyone else right now but he’s not ready to commit to a relationship with me yet. He’d like to keep going like this for a while until he makes up his mind. He said he likes me and sees a potential together. He also said he’s hesitant because of how busy school is right now. I just get the vibe that he’s not that into me and Idk if I should bail or give him more time since we’ve been taking things slow. What do you think?
You can continue to date HIM while seeing other guys. I know it seems like a strange concept in this age of "serial monogamy" but people did it in the '50's (and other times as well!). There's nothing wrong with it since you're far from being exclusive. It will keep you from pressuring him too much and you also aren't being "kept on a shelf" waiting for him to make up his mind. And you can drop him any time you want.
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