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You're a self-fulfilling prophecy at this point. You think your ex was perfect therefore no one else can match up.
You need some pretty intense therapy. I bet you'd even benefit from inpatient. From everything I've read, you hold on to the past like there's no tomorrow. Do you enjoy living this way?
You're a self-fulfilling prophecy at this point. You think your ex was perfect therefore no one else can match up.
You need some pretty intense therapy. I bet you'd even benefit from inpatient. From everything I've read, you hold on to the past like there's no tomorrow. Do you enjoy living this way?
Telling me that I need therapy over and over again is not going to make me go to therapy.
Well, just because it wasn't serious for him doesn't mean that it wasn't serious for me. And his new girlfriend doesn't look any better than I do, so apparently my looks weren't the problem.
Got it. I was thinking this was a hypothetical situation. Guess not.
You really need to ask yourself if you want to move on and have a successful relationship, or continue to be miserable and dwell on this person. It's been suggested to you repeatedly to seek counseling because you have major intimacy issues. There's only so much advice on the Internet can do for you.
You know this all already. You've been on this forum long enough to know all the standard advice. If you aren't going to try to help yourself, how can you expect anything to get better?
Telling me that I need therapy over and over again is not going to make me go to therapy.
Then you will be here forever posting the same things.
He didn't feel the same about you, and that's about as far from perfect as you can get.
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Maybe it's just me, but if I got kicked to the curb I'd have a hard time feeling that she was "all of that", I mean at some point your ego kicks in and you get a little self pride. In terms of if someone is still carrying a torch they probably shouldn't be dating anyone, cause no one, man or woman, wants to feel like a consolation prize.
Wait some time, get some clarity and then jump on the horse again.
Got it. I was thinking this was a hypothetical situation. Guess not.
You really need to ask yourself if you want to move on and have a successful relationship, or continue to be miserable and dwell on this person. It's been suggested to you repeatedly to seek counseling because you have major intimacy issues. There's only so much advice on the Internet can do for you.
You know this all already. You've been on this forum long enough to know all the standard advice. If you aren't going to try to help yourself, how can you expect anything to get better?
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And? That doesn't mean you don't need it.
You know you need therapy. You refuse to go. Stop complaining when you have a potential solution at your fingertips.
I don't see why everything I post has to be made into a personal issue though. I'm sure I'm not the only person in the world who's ever been hung up on someone before. Why can't we just discuss that issue in general?
Maybe it's just me, but if I got kicked to the curb I'd have a hard time feeling that she was "all of that", I mean at some point your ego kicks in and you get a little self pride. In terms of if someone is still carrying a torch they probably shouldn't be dating anyone, cause no one, man or woman, wants to feel like a consolation prize.
Wait some time, get some clarity and then jump on the horse again.
Yeah, I mean I just feel like I'm looking for his replacement at this point. He did replace other people who I thought I really liked before I met him, but I can't find anyone to replace him.
I don't see why everything I post has to be made into a personal issue though.
Maybe because it is a personal issue!
He prefers someone other than you.
For some reason, you are refusing to see that, or even accept that.
Why on earth are you wasting any time mooning over someone who does not want you?
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