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OP, the way your boyfriend ambushed you with a surprise break-up is a show of poorest character. Nonetheless, you poisoned the well when you withheld the truth of your feelings when asked. You say you are confused. He got confused, too, by your response, obviously. I'm not assigning fault. I'm just saying that you should now choose how you are going to be. If you are hurt, then tell him at next opportunity. If you are going to continue to say you are "good", then follow through with that and nevermind trying to make sense of that strange discussion. Obviously, though, you are hurt and you have indicated this.
Why does City-Data receive your honest feelings when your ex-boyfriend does not? Isn't this answer worth thinking about? His show of poor character should not be your guide for showing your character.
Last edited by sylvianfisher; 02-03-2016 at 12:19 AM..
OP, the way your boyfriend ambushed you with a surprise break-up is a show of poorest character. Nonetheless, you poisoned the well when you withheld the truth of your feelings when asked. You say you are confused. He got confused, too, by your response, obviously. I'm not assigning fault. I'm just saying that you should now choose how you are going to be. If you are hurt, then tell him at next opportunity. If you are going to continue to say you are "good", then follow through with that and nevermind trying to make sense of that strange discussion. Obviously, though, you are hurt and you have indicated this.
Why does City-Data receive your honest feelings when your ex-boyfriend does not? Isn't this answer worth thinking about? His show of poor character should not be your guide for showing your character.
Why does she need to show him anything? She tried to keep it together; he acted like a tool
OP, eff your ex-boyfriend. In a week or two you will realize how very lucky you are to be rid of this douchebag. He doesn't deserve another word from you.
Why does she need to show him anything? She tried to keep it together; he acted like a tool
His unworthiness of her honest character is beside the point of maintaining her character and we already know that withholding her truth has not worked well. At a next opportunity to tell the truth of her feelings, should an opportunity occur, it would behoove her to demonstrate her better character in truth than to let his unworthiness shape it for the worse. She has her long-term character to think about (I hope) and should not sacrifice it to temporary emotional ideas of does-he-or-doesn't-he deserve it. One's character is one's most important asset and should be independent of such people and not customized to them.
Ego, most likely. He's annoyed that you're not more upset about losing him.
He probably was finished with the relationship. But he excepted you to mope and cry about it, if not try to get him back. Some are narcissists that way. Like another thread where a girl dumped her boyfriend over text before the Holidays. Then when she sees him at a party, she's mad that he paid her no mind.
NAILED IT!!! ego pure and simple. he wanted you to be devastated and begging him to take you back, because he wanted to lord it over you.
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