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Yes there is a difference, but lists are not exclusive to women, just as 'bring to the table' are not exclusive to men. Most people consider both.
A list is a specific set of requirements where failure to check them are negatives. Person A does not know how to cook. Person B does not meet the height requirement.
'Bring to the table' are positive attributes one offers in a relationship. Person A is financially stable. Person B can cook. Maybe those aren't on your list, but it's certainly nice.
Is there a difference between a woman having a list of requirements vs a man asking himself what a woman brings to the table?
The former is what the "subject" wants and the latter asks what the "object" has. The difference between "I will only date men who have college degrees" and "Does he have a degree?" The sexes are irrelevant, and both phrases are cliche.
I think at some point in life, everyone sits around and figures out what they think their "ideal mate" will be like and makes a list based on that ideal. The truth is, it's all just wishful thinking, day dreaming. and playing around with ideas in your head. When you meet the woman or man who "clicks" with you, lists go out the window for most people. Granted there does seem to be a subset of miserable women and men who cling to their lists (and then wonder why they can't find their imaginary mate in real life).
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I think at some point in life, everyone sits around and figures out what they think their "ideal mate" will be like and makes a list based on that ideal. The truth is, it's all just wishful thinking, day dreaming. and playing around with ideas in your head. When you meet the woman or man who "clicks" with you, lists go out the window for most people. Granted there does seem to be a subset of miserable women and men who cling to their lists (and then wonder why they can't find their imaginary mate in real life).
Absolutely correct.
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