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So I met this guy around 2 years ago, at first there was something between us, we had sex quite a lot of times but unfortunately it didn't work out as I wanted something more and he didn't.
We got talking again 6 months ago, we talk most days through whatsapp and sometimes over the phone. I am 19 and he is 23. Around a week ago we kind of had a heart to heart about how we feel about each other. He told me he really liked me and how gorgeous i apparently am blah blah blah, I told him I really liked him etc etc we agreed to meet up soon when we both aren't busy.
2 days later I text him and told him I wasn't busy on the 4th and we should do something if he wants....This is how the conversation went....
Me - Hey. i'm free on the 4th let's do something if you want
Him - No thanks lol, not being horrible but me and you aren't going to happen, it's not practical.
Me - Why? have I done something wrong?
Him - No not at all, I just think I should have a bit more respect for myself. You're still a lot of fun though
I was a little taken a back by this and I don't know why I felt so disrespected when he said he needs to have more self respect but I'm still fun....? I felt as if he was saying there was something wrong with me. I want to ask him but I don't as I kind of feel like F you saying that to me but I also still like him but also don't and if he asked me out I'd probably say yes because I'm an idiot. So help me
Could anyone enlighten me as to what this guy is playing at?
So I met this guy around 2 years ago, at first there was something between us, we had sex quite a lot of times but unfortunately it didn't work out as I wanted something more and he didn't.
We got talking again 6 months ago, we talk most days through whatsapp and sometimes over the phone. I am 19 and he is 23. Around a week ago we kind of had a heart to heart about how we feel about each other. He told me he really liked me and how gorgeous i apparently am blah blah blah, I told him I really liked him etc etc we agreed to meet up soon when we both aren't busy.
2 days later I text him and told him I wasn't busy on the 4th and we should do something if he wants....This is how the conversation went....
Me - Hey. i'm free on the 4th let's do something if you want
Him - No thanks lol, not being horrible but me and you aren't going to happen, it's not practical.
Me - Why? have I done something wrong?
Him - No not at all, I just think I should have a bit more respect for myself. You're still a lot of fun though
I was a little taken a back by this and I don't know why I felt so disrespected when he said he needs to have more self respect but I'm still fun....? I felt as if he was saying there was something wrong with me. I want to ask him but I don't as I kind of feel like F you saying that to me but I also still like him but also don't and if he asked me out I'd probably say yes because I'm an idiot. So help me
Could anyone enlighten me as to what this guy is playing at?
Translation: being with you feels like he is disrespecting himself, so whilst he is happy to shag you, he wouldn't want to be seen with you! Now, you should get some respect for yourself and don't keep making yourself available to someone who doesn't want to be associated with you!
Translation: being with you feels like he is disrespecting himself, so whilst he is happy to shag you, he wouldn't want to be seen with you! Now, you should get some respect for yourself and don't keep making yourself available to someone who doesn't want to be associated with you!
What?! You two had a heart-to-heart talk, concluding that you'd get together soon, but then he blows you off, and pretty rudely, at that? WTH? Why all the chit-chat on WhatsApp, then?
All you can do at this point is write him off. Block him, don't respond if he contacts you again, even if he says he wants to go out. He's over.
Sorry OP. Sounds like kind of a jerk, anyway, the way he blew you off. Maybe he wants someone his own age. Are you a student, and he's graduated and moved on? Might be a life-stages thing. In any case, it's over, make sure it's over, don't give him another moment of your attention.
Translation: being with you feels like he is disrespecting himself, so whilst he is happy to shag you, he wouldn't want to be seen with you! Now, you should get some respect for yourself and don't keep making yourself available to someone who doesn't want to be associated with you!
^^^ This! 100%!!
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
The shocker is that it was so from out in left field! The last she saw him, he said he wanted to get together, so all she did is follow up on that.
No, the shocker is that OP got slapped in the face but "still like him". WHAT???????
He wanted to get laid, but changed his mind, as doing it with her was not worth it.
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I was a little taken a back by this and I don't know why I felt so disrespected when he said he needs to have more self respect but I'm still fun....? I felt as if he was saying there was something wrong with me. I want to ask him but I don't as I kind of feel like F you saying that to me but I also still like him but also don't and if he asked me out I'd probably say yes because I'm an idiot. So help me
Yes, he WAS saying there was something wrong with you. Too easy perhaps? Obviously being fun don't help a lot. Reevaluate your behavior, and make some changes, or you will hear it again...
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