Never married men/women and dating women/men with kids - just WOW

[b75]

And let me say I may be "childfree" now & perhaps forever. But I am "childfree" b/c I have not been in a situation that I feel is appropriate to bring children into. If that should change, then I would have them. But I won't have children just b/c I like them or want them without having what I feel is the proper emotional, relationship & financial foundation set up. It is just what is right for me - and I say that without casting any judgment onto others - most of my friends have had children at times that for me wouldn't be right, but they are nice people & good parents so to each their own. I'm guessing I probably don't fully fit into the CF subset wrspct my full philosophy though but I think I am viewed as a bit of an anomaly in real life with my POV.

[Unbiased]

I love all the posts from people who seem to think they'll find the perfect scenario. I grew up with a stepfather and he did feel like an outsider quite often...but then again, the 2 of them never sat down and said,"this is the way we want our life to be from this day forward; they just went in to it like a bull in a china closet".
In the work I do, I meet to people everyday who are facing the same problems because they never talked it out.
I happen to know someone my age, not married, but willing to have 1-nighters with married women, but wouldn't consider staying with a woman who already has kids....talk about contradicting oneself...still trying to have the cake and eat it too. He claims he's "a nice guy", but a nice guy doesn't screw another man's wife (or even put himself in the position for it to come up).
Nothing is ever perfect; maybe that insight comes with age or maybe it comes with watching friends and acquaintances fail miserably, spend lots of time being lonely, or overlook the perfect mate because he/she has already been married/has kids.
It takes WORK regardless of how one starts out.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by b75

And let me say I may be "childfree" now & perhaps forever. But I am "childfree" b/c I have not been in a situation that I feel is appropriate to bring children into. If that should change, then I would have them. But I won't have children just b/c I like them or want them without having what I feel is the proper emotional, relationship & financial foundation set up. It is just what is right for me - and I say that without casting any judgment onto others - most of my friends have had children at times that for me wouldn't be right, but they are nice people & good parents so to each their own. I'm guessing I probably don't fully fit into the CF subset wrspct my full philosophy though but I think I am viewed as a bit of an anomaly in real life with my POV.

Yeah man, I'm "childfree" forever too. People always wants to judge us and say we may change our minds and we're too young to make the decision.

If someone says they don't want kids, I'll believe them and I won't judge.