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Hello, If me and I my ex broke up 2 weeks ago and have already agreed to be friends but do not really keep in touch that much, is it helpful to send them a "lets not be friends" txt in this situation to escape the "Friend zone" and make her miss me more? or will this just distance her further? So basically my question is should I send a "lets not be friends txt" or just not communicate at all and follow through with the 30 day no contact or wait for her to initiate the contact first? Which course of action will make my our chances better to get back together in future?
Hello, If me and I my ex broke up 2 weeks ago and have already agreed to be friends but do not really keep in touch that much, is it helpful to send them a "lets not be friends" txt in this situation to escape the "Friend zone" and make her miss me more? or will this just distance her further? So basically my question is should I send a "lets not be friends txt" or just not communicate at all and follow through with the 30 day no contact or wait for her to initiate the contact first? Which course of action will make my our chances better to get back together in future?
If you send that text, be ready for them to say "ok" and never speak to you again.
You could try being honest and telling them that you want to get back together, but you may not get the response you want from that one either.
If you send that text, be ready for them to say "ok" and never speak to you again.
You could try being honest and telling them that you want to get back together, but you may not get the response you want from that one either.
What was the reason for breaking up?
Thanks for the advice. My message is basically going to be. "I'm either interested in romantic settings once again or nothing at all and that we both should move and not talk any more." I'm trying to play it as safe as possible but also dont want to fall into the "Friend zone" and have her get over my slowly and look weak! because if she says OK then I will have to stick to my word and never contact again.
We had a Very passionate relationship and could not get enough of each other but she went cold on me after couple of small arguments. At first she just wanted a break but I did not play it cool and over perused it to the point of her wanting to end things.
Thanks for the advice. My message is basically going to be. "I'm either interested in romantic settings once again or nothing at all and that we both should move and not talk any more." I'm trying to play it as safe as possible but also dont want to fall into the "Friend zone" and have her get over my slowly and look weak! because if she says OK then I will have to stick to my word and never contact again.
You put yourself into the friend zone when you broke up and decided to stay friends, so there is no falling into the friend zone involved.
Why did you break up to begin with? That knowledge would help with deciding if a reconciliation is likely.
"Let's be friends" is often something people just say and don't mean. If you are already not acting as friends, it's not likely that saying "hey, let's continue not communicating" will result in communication.
You put yourself into the friend zone when you broke up and decided to stay friends, so there is no falling into the friend zone involved.
Why did you break up to begin with? That knowledge would help with deciding if a reconciliation is likely.
Yes you are correct, I was not thinking wisely and let my emotion get best of me at the moment and put myself in the "Friend zone" Now I am trying to get out of it as I quickly realized that was big mistake!
We broke up because she had the idea in her head that I nit pick at her often when I was really trying to better her. There was no cheating involved. She just gradually got fed up over small arguments here and there. It was not a BIG BOOM type of argument or situation. It was more like tough love on my end (maybe a lil too touch). Also she though I would eventually marry a girl from my culture and did not feel that secure. This is a girl that would not get enough of me and wanted to see my everyday and would blow up my phone often when things were great.
No I am not trying to manipulate her in her decision. Just want to improve my chances in future.
IMO, the options that you mentioned are all about manipulation. That if you do (or don't do) something, her feelings will respond accordingly.
Why not just be straight out with her as to what your feelings are? Even if you don't get the answer you want, at least you will be able to move on with your life.
Yes you are correct, I was not thinking wisely and let my emotion get best of me at the moment and put myself in the "Friend zone" Now I am trying to get out of it as I quickly realized that was big mistake!
We broke up because she had the idea in her head that I nit pick at her often when I was really trying to better her. There was no cheating involved. She just gradually got fed up over small arguments here and there. It was not a BIG BOOM type of argument or situation. It was more like tough love on my end (maybe a lil too touch). Also she though I would eventually marry a girl from my culture and did not feel that secure. This is a girl that would not get enough of me and wanted to see my everyday and would blow up my phone often when things were great.
So she was not *good enough* for you, you felt compelled to *make her better* but now that she does not want you she is *good enough* for you?
Move on, if this girl ever sees you in a romantic light again it will be a miracle.
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