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But we don't want a financially secure man because we want him to take care of us. We want one because we don't want to take care of him.
I agree with jjrose though. No one on there can complain about being used.
Well, as is often brought up, "we" is a widely varied group. Many women (like those that frequent the site) do, in fact, want to be taken care of. I wouldn't say "most", but enough to keep the site (and others like it) afloat, anyway.
Its basically people buying companionship. How long do these "arrangements" last anyway? Usually the gold diggers will want more and more gold, the other person may exhaust thier funds, get sick and lose earning power etc and then its not enough. While its out in the open its still not a deep relationship. Its about getting more material crap that you cant take with you anyway ultimately. And someone out there always has more gold to begin with.
Im happily married but if I were single with mad $$$ it would still be no way for me. I would live alone in the woods in a nice treehouse before joining up on something like this. I might add some people on the site are married to begin with, thier spouses find out from the financial numbers being off.
I don't have a problem with it. There's a couple of types of men for whom that kind of scenario is very appropriate:
Rich men who don't have much else going for them.
Men who have more money than time or effort, and who highly value appearance.
I'd also add, "men who specifically want to fill a 'mentor/beneficiary'-type role, but I imagine that, despite what many of the profile probably say, not too many of the potential sugar babies are actually SEEKING a mentor.
Of course the most intriguing part is how they "cover up" they want money.
But is it not honesty the best policy?
Because in this world, you need to always have plausible deniability for services rendered or offered.
It is the same reason for the typical disclaimer (and arguably useless) for working girls who advertise
"My fees are for my time and companionship only. If anything else happens it is a matter of coincidence and choice between consenting adults."
I've seen "companionship" exchanged for
Steady source of Money
Health Care
Place to Live
Papers (immigration)
Vehicle
This really is just yet another form of prostitution which generally comes with an agreement that extends beyond the typical per-hour-arrangement.
I have no problems with it personally. In fact, all those Men going their own way may actually find these arrangements an ideal fit in their chosen lifestyle. The same reason why those that have no time to develop relationships for companionship or have no desire to maintain a relationship would go this route.
Another advantage of this arrangement is steady companionship with the same person. Familiarity and a certain level of comfort that comes with familiarity is valuable for some. It is also safer from prosecution than mongering the streets or listings.
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