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Mine was this timeless Celto-Roman forest nymph who, in spite of not having very much in common with me, absolutely mesmerized me. We were both barely adults. She at the time was saving herself for marriage or at very least someone she deemed a suitable prospect. I didn't make the cut, so we never got carnal (well, nothing past 2nd base at least). All of that said, I sometimes wonder about the outcome if I had been more mature and less into myself at the time. If I'd been even a bit more tuned into her, given her mesmerizing and sweet disposition, who knows how things might have eventually turned out ... for the both of us.
Now for ... danger, danger Will Robinson.
She's shown up on the web and is at the moment a mere email or phone call away. Seemingly divorced.
i never compare one girlfriend with another, it isnt fair to any of them. i got over my first love many years ago, and i treat each new lady as an individual.
My first love was in HS. We were together for 3 yrs or so. It was hard when we split. It took me a good while to get over her and truth be told, I think that a part of me changed and I became a bit more guarded with my "heart" so to speak. Sorta sad, but it is what it is.
She friended me on FB a few yrs ago and we interact once ever few months, if that really. She never married and had kids, she does have a LTR with a guy apparently. She has posted a few things over the yrs about her sister and how they haven't talked for 10 yrs. I often wondered why she never had kids or what happened between her and her sister. When we were together her sister was around us all the time. I actually had a pretty good bond with her sister and when some guy cheated on her I asked her if she wanted me to go have a talk with him. LOL
My first love was in HS. We were together for 3 yrs or so. It was hard when we split. It took me a good while to get over her and truth be told, I think that a part of me changed and I became a bit more guarded with my "heart" so to speak. Sorta sad, but it is what it is.
She friended me on FB a few yrs ago and we interact once ever few months, if that really. She never married and had kids, she does have a LTR with a guy apparently. She has posted a few things over the yrs about her sister and how they haven't talked for 10 yrs. I often wondered why she never had kids or what happened between her and her sister. When we were together her sister was around us all the time. I actually had a pretty good bond with her sister and when some guy cheated on her I asked her if she wanted me to go have a talk with him. LOL
Sorry, gave me info than the OP asked for.
I 100% felt the same way after we ended our relationship. Never willing to love anyone to that same extent anymore. I went from being able to love someone more then myself to at best being able to love someone as much as myself just to protect myself. Oh the lessons we learn in life .
I 100% felt the same way after we ended our relationship. Never willing to love anyone to that same extent anymore. I went from being able to love someone more then myself to at best being able to love someone as much as myself just to protect myself. Oh the lessons we learn in life .
The people in our lives need 100% of what we're able to give, nothing less. I was careful to say "what we're able to give" because as I get older one of the "lessons" I've learned is to accept that people have limits and that is just the way it is. Right, wrong, or indifferent.
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I've never been in a relationship, but the first person for whom I ever felt romantic feelings was A, in junior high (we were both 13).
It is interesting that my brief involvement with Jehovah's Witnesses caused me to say something to her that made her cry, and that was brought us together as friends. They promote the idea of deicide, and A was Jewish. So because I had been brainwashed by them, I made an anti-Semetic remark to her and it made her cry. Her tears eventually made me cry as well, and made me think about religion and life and how I felt about her. I realized I was in love with her and that the idea of deicide is evil and promotes bigotry and hatred.
So I ended my involvement with Jehovah's Witnesses. Ever since then, I have considered myself a Deist.
In any case, the following school year, 8th grade, I wrote A a handwritten letter/note and passed it to her. I talked about how sorry I was and how much I cared about her, and begged for her forgiveness. She wrote one in response saying the incident was forgiven and forgotten. Thereafter, we talked every school day at lunch, and we wrote each other many letters. I still have many of the ones she gave me. We once spent two hours on the phone together.
Still, when I told her that I was in love with her, she said she just wanted to stay platonic friends. I was heartbroken and depressed after that. The first of many heartbreaks. But I felt better in three weeks or so. I thought that was the worst that anyone could feel when their feelings are not reciprocated, but in the future I learned that it gets a lot worse. You can share your feelings with the wrong person, and the result can be that the object of your affection wants you out of their life entirely. That hurts a lot more.
The good news is that on the last day of 8th grade, she gave me her address and phone number on a piece of paper; she was going to attend a private Catholic school. The bad news is that I lost the paper. I tried writing her a letter through the USPS in high school, with her name and the name of her street and the city; I did not remember the address. Somebody wrote me back, and I think it was her, but I'm not sure because I didn't get a response to my reply.
I ran into her again when I was attending a community college right after high school and gave her my number. She didn't call.
But that was the first time I felt that extra spark of interest, and felt like I was in love. So other feelings are always compared to that.
The 20th anniversary of our high school graduating class is coming up. A is the only one I'm not still in contact with but would like to be. At some point I should contact the people organizing the HS reunion for her school. I hope she's all right these days.
I still love my first love and I know he still loves me...things didn't work out for one reason alone..but I guess if it was meant to be, it was meant to be. I'm certain that we both know what would happen if we tried to remain "friends" while he's an actively married man.
To save my self from disgrace, amongst other things, we both know we can never communicate with one another, ever again.
Such is life...
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