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if I were in your shoes,,,, this is what id do,,,, find his screename,,,,and reply to him one on one-nothing deters a man like a crazed boyfriend...send a picture of the to of you,, and tell him,,, you two have been talking of marriage you would appreciate it if you would stay [bleep] away from them,,,and not be a homewrecker...id even go so far as to say,,,did she tell you she was pregnant??
(why do you have to play by the honest rules,,,they are dumping on you,,and playing you the fool)
then he will back off ... tell her.. and lets see how she handles it,,she cannot get mad at you
she cant bring it up to you without admitting what she's already doing..
most will say go to her first..... well maybe if you are ready to lose her go ahead,,,, she has a man to fall to,,,while you will be devastated
the perfect world,,is you confront her,,,and say thank you for revealing who you truly are .... and leave
if you can do this,,,go ahead
if you cannot and think you two can salvage this,,,,,,then try to talk it out,,
but
you are in a situation a million guys have been in,,,
if the shoe is on the other foot,,,she will yell and scream and say she cant trust you...
no one knows this situation better than you..
What do you mean lose?
He's already lost.
You are dumping her, right, op?
Wow, I would [get out] of that relationship immediately. I've been there where an ex was just texting other women behind my back.. granted it was just texting at that time and I was too dumb and naive at the time.. gave him chances. Then at the end, he went out and got physical behind my back. So do yourself a favor and end it now.. I know, it sucks but you're in there for the long haul if you let this slide and it'll hurt even more down the road.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 02-15-2016 at 08:18 AM..
Reason: Language.
Time for you to leave this relationship. Why would you even consider staying with someone who is doing this? I would not admit to snooping through the phone I would just tell her things are not working out and leave while the getting is good
Ha, you're a total pushover, OP. That's why she doesn't give a crap about leaving her phone out for you to see her skanky activities. Women have little respect for sissies.
Hc nails it
Some people can turn a blind eye to being used, manipulated, betrayed & deceived.
(I'm never going to be that naive)
Y'all would be shocked at how many married
people I know who hardly cover
their own tracks while cheating.....
Many of them know their spouses aren't
paying enough attention to notice.
And then there's the cheaters who know that their partners don't have the guts it takes to leave.
If someone is cheating on me and then suddenly uses the "why are you spying on me" and "why are you going through my phone, email, etc" to defend herself. Someone is getting that famous 70s show comment, "Foot in Ass".
And the second thing to happen is someone
is going to jail 2. Someone is taking anger
management classes 3. Someone is paying
hefty fines and doing community service....
Personally, I would tell her you won't stand for it. It doesn't matter that you went through her phone. Just tell her that when you saw the text alert and she didn't acknowledge it, you knew something was up so you checked. An attorney would call that "probable cause."
THIS!! She's cheated on you, and you're worried that she'll get mad AT YOU?? She isn't worth the time it will take you to dump her. Cut her loose and move on - FAST. Good luck.
OP pretty much the same thing happened to me. I saw someone was texting my girlfriend at the time repeatedly, and found it pretty odd. I looked at the phone and it was a message from the guy she slept with the night before which was pretty explicit.
I have a zero tolerance with that type of thing. While I was up through half the night worried about her because she wasn't beside me in bed she was having sex with this other guy. Once I found out, I confronted her about it and I was out and out of the apartment leaving her high and dry in a couple hours.
How in the world could you not end this?
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