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7 dates and no sex?! Either the woman is not into the OP whatsoever, or she's got a serious hang-up about sex.
I also find it strange that the woman was married for two years & she's like this. I could see it more if she had never had sex.
I don't traditionally "date" any more (just into casual flings - for the most part), but when I did - I was always looking for something sexual to happen on the first date. It typically did. However, if it didn't, I had 0 interest in seeing the woman again.
Last edited by The Big Lebowski Dude; 02-18-2016 at 09:59 PM..
Going out with a woman and ticking off the seconds til you can get to home plate????
Goals and objectives to be filled usually work better on a yr end statements from your 401k fund managers. Meeting women or the opposite sex isn't something that can be quantified and parsed and graphed so easily.
The OP hasn't said much about the quality of this woman, more so of the timeline and his verging interesting in maintaining a timeline.
Unless I missed some posts, the OP isn't talking about the woman in terms of her as a person, more so as a goal, a timeline, a spreadsheet item to be met, an item to check off a list. I invested X, how soon can I get "Y" from this investment.
I guess my old fashioned self is poking out....... my apologies.
7 dates and no sex?! Either the woman is not into the OP whatsoever, or she's got a serious hang-up about sex.
I also find it strange that the woman was married for two years & she's like this. I could see it more if she had never had sex.
I don't traditionally "date" any more (just into casual flings - for the most part), but when I did - I was always looking for something sexual to happen on the first date. It typically did. However, if it didn't, I had 0 interest in seeing the woman again.
this is a crap attitude that is causing all kinds of issues these days;
i didnt get any sex after X number of dates what do i do?
some say move on, but if all you want is sex, then instead of going on several dates and hoping that you get it, why not just take the money you would have spent, and get hooker? why not just cut out the middle man, so to speak.
OP- why are you not talking to the women you date about sex beforehand?
Having a open and caring conversation about sex and sexual expectations is a great way to get to know someone better, deepen the relationship, help a woman feel safer, and give you some idea of whether or not you are sexually compatible.
Yes, it would be helpful if people would actually do this and be honest. I don't think conversations like this were ever common and doesn't look like it has changed.
The point of dating is not to get laid...it´s to find compatibility. Maybe she doesn´t feel comfortable with you yet. "Traditional" may be, she wants a commitment before give herself to anyone.
If you are dating just to get laid, you will find out not every girl operates the same way.
I think giving a number of dates before on sex is just wrong because the girl may be just not interested on having sex. For her it´s just going out
From Personal experience when dating: keep it clean and leave the eagerness for sex out of the question.
The less you try for sex, the better because it will come natural.
If you are counting the dates...that´s not a guarantee for anything.
And it goes back to the "time wasting" aspect that it's not really a waste of time to spend time with someone, get to know them, have fun, even if that doesn't end with a relationship or sex. With every date, every person, you know more about what you want and what you don't, what's important and what's not.
Seven dates is almost two months! This is going to be so un PC, but here goes......you have time invested so you may as well ride it out...probably going to take some time to train her to be a good time, since the girl at 29 has literally zero experience. I've had "virgins". Who would give up oral and anal after two dates. Something is wrong here.
Yeah, something is wrong here, allright.
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