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Old 02-18-2016, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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Why would you bring an ex into your life? And your gfs??


You can have so many friends, why does it have to be an ex?
The bond is stronger than just her. I was very close with her entire family. It's platonic but I admit life is lonely right now.
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Old 02-18-2016, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Perhaps she has unresolved feelings which wouldn't be welcome.

I'm annoyed though that she reached out and chooses not to answer back. Oh well.

Thanks all for responses.
Unresolved feelings? For who or about what?
If its about you, then there does not even need to be texting, chatting, none of the above going on, period.
Especially if both of you are in a relationship with someone else.

Did you tell your GF that she reached out?

Maybe she was just fishing to see if you were in a relationship. I wouldn't waste anymore energy on wondering why she has not responded. Put your energy into your GF now!
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Old 02-18-2016, 04:36 PM
 
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Is it possible she hoped to get back together? Or possibly hoped for a friendship which didn't necessarily include current SO's. Sometimes people need "their own" friends.
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Old 02-18-2016, 04:48 PM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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Unresolved feelings? For who or about what?
If its about you, then there does not even need to be texting, chatting, none of the above going on, period.
Especially if both of you are in a relationship with someone else.

Did you tell your GF that she reached out?

Maybe she was just fishing to see if you were in a relationship. I wouldn't waste anymore energy on wondering why she has not responded. Put your energy into your GF now!
My ex and my partner work for the same company. My partner also works very closely with a relative of my ex at the same company. About a year ago, the ex reached out to my partner to contact me because a mutual friend was in ill health. My partner is Friends with my ex on social media. I haven't talk to my ex however in quite some time. She reached out to me recently and I'm a little bit annoyed that she hasn't gotten back. I thought we were friends.
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Old 02-18-2016, 04:54 PM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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Is it possible she hoped to get back together? Or possibly hoped for a friendship which didn't necessarily include current SO's. Sometimes people need "their own" friends.
Absolutely not. She's with someone and has kids.

I really don't like referring to her as an ex. She's like a lost friend to me.
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Old 02-19-2016, 12:05 AM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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Is it possible she hoped to get back together? Or possibly hoped for a friendship which didn't necessarily include current SO's. Sometimes people need "their own" friends.
Her mom and I have a nice relationship.
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Old 02-19-2016, 07:15 AM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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I fixed it for you.
Really?
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Old 02-19-2016, 07:18 AM
 
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A girl I dated 10 years ago reached out to me. We have had nice conversations about life in general, but it's been rather casual. She's in a committed relationship as am I. I have no desire to rekindle a romance with her, but her friendship would be nice.

Last week, she sent me a text after two weeks of silence, but hasn't responded to any of my recent questions (such as do you want to go out on a double date).

I'm wondering if I crossed some imaginary line. Do I just let her be or do I ask if I offended her.

Leave her be.
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Old 02-19-2016, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Santa Clara
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Leave her be.
I tend to agree. That's the road in taking.

The sad part is that it's difficult to make real friendships from the start all over again. When you have a friendship that has multiple dimensions (family, mutual friends, etc) it just tends to make life easier.
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Old 02-19-2016, 07:21 AM
 
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The bond is stronger than just her. I was very close with her entire family. It's platonic but I admit life is lonely right now.

This tells me all I need to know.


I feel sorry for your partner, especially because she has to work with this ex.
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