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Sex once every 2 months is awful. The husbands needs are obviously not being met, this is why so many married men see escorts
I agree that things aren't going down a great path, but a marriage isn't just about his boner. If her needs were being met, she might feel more sexual and affectionate. It's a whole chicken and egg thing that they really should be working out in counseling.
He just sent me another text to say that he's going to just stop trying and make it a challenge to see who can go the longest without trying to get it. With his mindset he will lose this challenge inside of less than a week. If he's this horny all the time then either he's going to be back on her about it or he's going to go get him some on the side.
Sex once every 2 months is awful. The husbands needs are obviously not being met, this is why so many married men see escorts
Granted, she did say she'd be willing to do it once a week in the mornings but he doesn't want to have to wait till Sat morning because that's about the only day they can actually lay in bed a little longer. He expressed the problem, she gave a compromise, now he's rejecting that so he's still not getting any by being stubborn.
While I think it's none of his business, her only wanting to have sex once a month, or once every other month is absolutely unacceptable. And I can see him wanting to divorce her.
This is more than "the amount of sex they are having" or "marriage being just about sex". They are basically NOT having sex. And sex is part of ANY relationship, especially marriage. If he was complaining about only having sex once or twice a week, I would say he is full of crap.
But once a month or once every other month is absolutely unacceptable.
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Originally Posted by Hells Kitchen Dominican
Sex once every 2 months is awful. The husbands needs are obviously not being met, this is why so many married men see escorts
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Originally Posted by Zeurich
Yes that is it. I cannot imagine how come a brother say these things. Stay out of it.
I think it's ok to talk about it, but getting involved is another story
I agree that things aren't going down a great path, but a marriage isn't just about his boner. If her needs were being met, she might feel more sexual and affectionate. It's a whole chicken and egg thing that they really should be working out in counseling.
He has expressed that he doesn't like counseling cause the counselor isn't telling them who's right or wrong. What counselor does that? He doesn't want to talk about his feelings. He just want to say his sexual needs aren't being met and she's not willing to give it up multiple times a week. He's blaming everything on her under the umbrella of "regular marital relations" but she may not see 3 or 4 times a week as regular. She may be viewing that as excessive.
I don't know what counseling is going to do here, from the guy's perspective anyway. If his wife is absolutely inflexible about only having sex once a month, and is unwilling to discuss or work on that issue, I see his only option as to leave.
If there's more to the story, some REASON why she's unwilling, do tell.
I could not fathom wanting to try to convince my brother to stay with an unwilling partner.
This entire thread made me chuckle and shake my head, from the title to post #16 but I won't quote them all.
OP there are more issues than lack of sex in your brothers marriage however I will only address the title of your thread which is:
"How do I get my brother to understand marriages aren't solely based on the amt of sex?
the answer is:
YOU DON'T, you stay out of your brother's marriage and bedroom no matter how many times he asks you and you tell him to quit texting & talking to you about his marriage and bedroom issues. This is between him and his wife ONLY.
Some who post on this forum have been trying to tell people for years that you cannot base your relationship with another human on physical attributes and sex alone. If you would read this forum you will see how well it has worked here.
That is not enough sex imo. Every two months? Reading ish like that is why so many people are scared to get married.
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Yes that is it. I cannot imagine how come a brother say these things. Stay out of it.
