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Unread 12-02-2008, 11:21 PM
 
Location: southern california
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i think diffused personalities are much better liked.
the focused person however is often more of an achiever.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 12:25 PM
 
Location: TEXAS
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ohhhh good posts!! Seeing as I am what others consider " INTENSE" I can understand that question and identify with it as well...

I find that most people do not understand intense.. To me intense and direct are the same. I stand up for what I believe in and I speak my mind when asked. I dont ever sugar coat and I hate people who so... I have never been confused for a " yes" person but I will always help out a friend or person in need...
Your average person feels overwhelmed by my personality and I do try and tamper it somewhat at times. My friends have been my friends for 20 years plus and love me as I am.. I like to call myself and aquired taste!! But I always blend with personalities as strong as mine because I respect a person who stands up for their convictions!!

It has hurt me a little in my business life and I wish I had that kind of backbone in my personal life.. If I ran my personal life as I do all my other aspects of life, I would RULE!!!
karma
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Southern Belle
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It's always both interesting and amusing to read how we all interpret words and behavior.

Just the other day I was describing a 3-1/2 year old as "serious" and her mother replied, "no she is intense."

My view of an intense personality is one who is intent upon issues, and focused on either solving a problem, or sharing an issue that compels them greatly.
I agree with this entire post, ontheroad.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:20 PM
 
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I have been described as a bit of an enigma, because I have a happy-go-lucky personality that masks a very deep intensity underneath. So, while I have an offbeat persona, I'm the guy who takes over a meeting, cracks the whip on a deadline (Nicely), and works 36 straight hours on a project until it's done.

It has caught many a person by surprise before, I admit. That's worked to my advantage a number of times.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:34 PM
 
Location: On the Sunny Side of the Street
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I'm definitely intense, but only in certain things. I'm intense with respect to my perseverance; I'm intense in my workouts; I'm intense artistically speaking; and I'm intense with respect to passion and sensuality.

But in everything else, I'm pretty laid-back -- virtually comatosed.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:40 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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What traits would you personally use to describe an intense personality?
There's passionate and there's over the top, to me. The former applies intensity to his work, what needs to be done, what he believes in, priorities. The latter is the person who weighs on everyone around them, over-reacting; everything is a greek tragedy.

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Would you describe yourself as being an intense person? Has anyone else described you as being intense?
I've been accused of not feeling/expressing enough. But that is because I have experienced enough to know where my energy is best spent.

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Do you feel that people who are intense have a harder time being in relationships or socializing than others? Why or why not?
Balance of intensity is important, IMO. Knowing when, where and how much to express makes the difference between being great to be around and being "THAT guy" that has people ducking when he walks in the door.

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Would you want your partner to be more or less intense as a personality overall?
Less is more.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:42 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I would say I am intense. I am either distant and detached from people or no-holds-barred. People who know me well often forget I am shy. I think a lot of shy people are quite intense. I think the intensity may cause shyness, because if you were uninhibited all the time, then it would be exhausting. There's a misconception that shy people are boring, but they're really some of the more interesting people. You are more concerned with complex matters, and things like small-talk bore you to death. You have to hold back because you can be almost too direct and say exactly what you feel.

So do I think being intense can cause social problems? Yes I do. Not drama however, because intense people are either detached and have no interest in causing drama, or they are attached enough to be very forgiving and fiercely loyal. Maybe that's just me though...I have little to no drama in my life, and it's never about me.

Some traits I associate with intensity:

high-strung
introverted
creative
passionate
deep thinkers
strong morals / integrity
fiercely loyal & protective of those they love
quiet and shy
direct and blunt
determined
sensitive
temperamental / moody
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Unread 01-20-2009, 01:59 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I'm the guy who takes over a meeting, cracks the whip on a deadline (Nicely), and works 36 straight hours on a project until it's done.
I don't associate any of these examples with intensity...
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Unread 01-20-2009, 02:03 PM
 
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I don't associate any of these examples with intensity...
Well, when I'm flogging ten other people to do their jobs, you would.
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Unread 01-20-2009, 02:05 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Well, when I'm flogging ten other people to do their jobs, you would.
I don't associate intensity with slave-driving, either.
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