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I was taken care of my own yard when I met him. One of the things I thought was so sweet about him is the fact that he made the satatement " I'd be taking care of your yard if i were your man.!"
Since he's not doing "yardwork" maybe that was a euphemism for something else.
I was taken care of my own yard when I met him. One of the things I thought was so sweet about him is the fact that he made the satatement " I'd be taking care of your yard if i were your man.!"
yeah, well, that's what a lot of people do. Empty promises but he might even have meant it when he said it. But actions speaker louder than words.
My ex promised me a house. I got my house. He didn't do anything, just looked at me when I walked by the window outside, dragging yard stuff around and then I had backpain for a week and he complained that I just laid around until I felt better. Turns out, he never wanted a house. Therefore, every little thing that came with it, was too much for him. He was sitting bored on the couch, asking me what to do to not be bored and when I told him we can cut the trees together, he turned the tv on. But if this was the only bad thing about him, I would have let it slide.
I was taken care of my own yard when I met him. One of the things I thought was so sweet about him is the fact that he made the satatement " I'd be taking care of your yard if i were your man.!"
I can't speak for your fiancee in particular, but this is a common "line". "I would totally do XYZ if I were your man!"
This question is directed toward Men, about Finances, and the role a Man should take as "Head of Household."
You are living with your Girlfriend (whom you have asked to Marry), and you make 3 times what she makes. The agreement upon move-in is that you two will split the bills 50/50.
Your Live in Girlfriend does all of the housework, buys all of the groceries, even does the Yard Work, and is a Single Parent to a child from a previous Marriage. You both Work Full-Time Jobs.
As a Man, would you feel bad about only contributing half, (considering you make 3 times as much as your future wife)?
As the Man of the house, If a bill in the amount of $125 is due, would you give your Live in Girlfriend EXACTLY $62.50?
Would you ask your "Live In Girlfriend" if she needed help with any extra financial or household expenses, or would you offer to pay more than your share of the household bills?
You know, when you start out with "Your money" and "My money" it sets a very bad tone for the relationship. If this really is the living together part before getting hitched, then it just goes into a pot and becomes "Our money." Because you commit to a relationship with everything you have. That includes your cash and your trust. Otherwise, no matter how many pious things you say, you're really not all in.
I think you should talk with your partner and rearrange the agreement of 50-50 since you feel is not longer valid for you.
Talk things over with him. Sometimes agreements needs certain types of fixes no one can do, unless both parts involved take things into perspective and for that you need to talk.
If you feel the agreement is not of your liking, tell him so.
Any man that expects his live in girlfriend or wife to split bills '50/50' has unknowingly given the woman he is with, carte blanche freedom to not only cheat as much as she wants, but also have total justification for the infidelity.
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Any man that expects his live in girlfriend or wife to split bills '50/50' has unknowingly given the woman he is with, carte blanche freedom to not only cheat as much as she wants, but also have total justification for the infidelity.
Like someone else said to you, stick with the hypergamy shtick.
This one guy I work with is completely nuts about finances. He charts out every monthly cost on a spreadsheet, I always hear him questioning his wife on purchases when the CC bill comes. it's nuts...
I do that too, but just for funsies
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