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Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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To add more fuel to the fire, our job has had after hours Happy Hour which he went to, I know he knows that I don't usually go bc my husband doesn't drink & also b/c I try to keep a low profile at work. In the beginning when I met him, we were both new & hung out together in the lunch room. Maybe this is why he *thinks* I'm interested in him, he would always tell me issues he'd be having w/ his wife & I'd try to give him advice to "improve" his relationship, & I'd also mention my husband too so he'd know I'm *off limits* but still he would occasionally message me. :/
I get the picture though, he is very professional at work. The messaging happens *after work* so it would be hard to make any case against him. Thanks for the replies everyone.
When you put yourself out there like that, these things happen. I'd shut the facebook page down. Also don't tell your husband when your co-workers hit on you. It will happen but eventually you have to act like an adult and not bring it home. Just say no thanks. Sorry that happened to you. yuck~
this
seems obvious to me
I don't friend request married women out of the blue on facebook
you should know better
Okay, so remove him as a friend and block him on facebook and as far as your husband telling you he will take care of it, that is fine and dandy except you, yourself did not draw that boundary line.........
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Okay, so remove him as a friend and block him on facebook and as far as your husband telling you he will take care of it, that is fine and dandy except you, yourself did not draw that boundary line.........
True I have never been a confrontational type of woman & that is an issue I'm working on....
Okay, so remove him as a friend and block him on facebook and as far as your husband telling you he will take care of it, that is fine and dandy except you, yourself did not draw that boundary line.........
As we have said, you could very easily douse any "fire" right this minute rather than dragging out all the intrigue. Just unfriend and block him on FB. And no more marriage advice. That is one of the most obvious ways married people flirt and build inroads... to complain about their marriage to someone of the opposite sex.
Enablers don't have to be confrontational. They just "let" things happen.
True I have never been a confrontational type of woman & that is an issue I'm working on....
I do understand completely and I do sympathize but one thing I have learned throughout my current lifetime is that you cannot become comfortable until you step out of your comfort zone.
I do wish you the best and hope you get this resolved quickly.
PS: Don't approach this as a confrontation, make a statement of fact, clear, concise, short, straight to the point. Say what you mean to say one time, make it clear there will be no discussion and another incident from that moment will be handled via management.
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Correct.
The "fire"??
As we have said, you could very easily douse any "fire" right this minute rather than dragging out all the intrigue. Just unfriend and block him on FB. And no more marriage advice. That is one of the most obvious ways married people flirt and build inroads... to complain about their marriage to someone of the opposite sex.
Enablers don't have to be confrontational. They just "let" things happen.
OK, I wasn't aware of that...most of the married couples we hang out w/ don't "complain" especially not in a one-on-one setting...
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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I do understand completely and I do sympathize but one thing I have learned throughout my current lifetime is that you cannot become comfortable until you step out of your comfort zone.
I do wish you the best and hope you get this resolved quickly.
Thanks CSD610, honestly I never thought it would get to this "level" (if you will) My husband nor I have responded to his message about him knowing me & agreeing that I'm beautiful & the fact that he's married as well. I don't know if it's worth it to respond?
I'm confused. If a guy I worked with even made it to FB friend status, he'd best act like a friend, or I'd just unfriend him and avoid the subject entirely.
Why is something to simple so complicated???
Ditto texting me stuff that's inappropriate. I've had many a male friend in the workplace and none of them cross any lines of inappropriate behavior because I don't allow it.
I even have some that are pretty big jokers and are relatively flirty individuals, but they keep it light and harmless. I'm friends on FB (and in person) with most of their wives, too.
I dunno... I think you made this complicated, when it could have been really simple.
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I have never been a confrontational type of woman & that is an issue I'm working on....
