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Well in the mirror I don't look awful but in pictures I do and since I've never had women attracted to me I'm making an educated guess that I'm not attractive lol
This has been discussed about a zillion times. There is a very, very, very small percentage of the population that will not be considered as a partner by just about all of the other part of the population.
Most times it is attitude, personality or unrealistic expectations that prevent this, so the chances are very great that it is not your looks per se.
Most of my friends or family members wives/girlfriends through the years tell them how much they like me what a good guy Iam etc but when it comes to single women I can't seem to get anywhere..
They are very guarded and don't seem to want to get into any type of long conversation with me..and look for a way out of the conversation.
After 35 years my guess the problem is I must be unattractive.. these women in relationships like me as a person and feel I'm no threat to hit on them. Single women are scared that if they talk to me I might get the wrong impression that they like me.
Just my feeling, but I think when you are around married or attached girlfriends, you probably have a more relaxed demeanor and an outgoing personality because there is no pressure to impress. Compare to your single female friends, you probably become more uptight. You want to impress them but it is not coming off as relaxed or perhaps you do not want to say the wrong things.
What this always shows is that these guys don't really think they are totally ugly. If they did, it wouldn't matter what other people thought. They would already know they are ugly. On some level, they don't really think that. They just want to complain and make excuses for the hard work and develop the strength it actually takes to get out there and make yourself vulnerable to the opposite sex.
What this always shows is that these guys don't really think they are totally ugly. If they did, it wouldn't matter what other people thought. They would already know they are ugly. On some level, they don't really think that. They just want to complain and make excuses for the hard work and develop the strength it actually takes to get out there and make yourself vulnerable to the opposite sex.
That's not necessarily true. I don't think much of my looks, and I'd never invite people to agree with me.
I do tend to agree with what I bolded, though. I'm not sure it's fear of hard work so much as a genuine psychological issue like learned helplessness. The result is the same though. Most men have to make their own luck with women (as most women do in different ways). If you're looks challenged, this is especially true.
So OP, whatever your deal is, you make it work or you don't. You've chosen not to. It would be healthier if you owned that choice.
What this always shows is that these guys don't really think they are totally ugly. If they did, it wouldn't matter what other people thought. They would already know they are ugly. On some level, they don't really think that. They just want to complain and make excuses for the hard work and develop the strength it actually takes to get out there and make yourself vulnerable to the opposite sex.
No he thinks he's ugly. I'm not sure what this post has to do with my comment. And how does one develop strength? Where's your psychology degree?
Most of my friends or family members wives/girlfriends through the years tell them how much they like me what a good guy Iam etc but when it comes to single women I can't seem to get anywhere.
They are very guarded and don't seem to want to get into any type of long conversation with me..and look for a way out of the conversation.
After 35 years my guess the problem is I must be unattractive.. these women in relationships like me as a person and feel I'm no threat to hit on them. Single women are scared that if they talk to me I might get the wrong impression that they like me.
I'm not so sure to agree. It depends largely on their age, but also its a fact that mature girls know what they want, and most of the single girls (that are cute, have to say it) are single because they are immature I don't know if I implied.
OP,
did you previously go by "Brantley Gilbert" by any chance?
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I don't know if I implied.
