My boyfriend has given me an ultimatum (loving, attraction, neighbor)
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My boyfriend said that he won't marry me if I don't lose weight. He has started seeing other women to show that he's got one foot out the door and he's ready to leave if I don't make an effort.
What should I do?
Work on developing some self-esteem - it's seems nonexistent.
I don't believe this is a real post, but on the off chance it is, then I say lose weight if you think he is worth keeping or don't if hes not. Why would you ask us? Oh yeah, it's not a real post.
Uh, op, it's not even a decision. You just leave...unless you want to be married, headed towards a divorce with at least two kids caught in the middle of an adult war after about 7 "wonderful" years together, your "wonderful" boyfriend (husband) still seeing other chicks on the side while you're gaining weight from depression, anxiety, and all that good stuff, and oh yea, you catching a little "itch" down there thanks to your husband. Best to fly solo.
Lose the weight or end up with no boyfriend. Simple choice. If you do manage to find another one, he's going to be just as disappointed, even if he doesn't say it. Men like slim women, and losing weight is not hard. He's doing you a favor by communicating to you loud and clear what the problem is, and now all you have to do is fix it.
My ex-husband told me he would divorce me if I didn't lose weight. After years of abuse, I left him. I lost 90 lbs and then he wanted me again. I eventually divorced him. I am still overweight, but my new husband loves me no matter what I weigh.
He is not going to change. If he is a tool now he will always be a tool. Find someone who loves you for who you are,not how much you weigh.
My ex-husband told me he would divorce me if I didn't lose weight. After years of abuse, I left him. I lost 90 lbs and then he wanted me again. I eventually divorced him. I am still overweight, but my new husband loves me no matter what I weigh.
He is not going to change. If he is a tool now he will always be a tool. Find someone who loves you for who you are,not how much you weigh.
Exactly. Just send the boy packing, and then do what make you feel better about yourself, just for your own sake, and not to keep some flake happy.
My boyfriend said that he won't marry me if I don't lose weight. He has started seeing other women to show that he's got one foot out the door and he's ready to leave if I don't make an effort.
What should I do?
First and only post. Right. In case you're real, all I have to say is that you sure can pick 'em.
I can understand the want for the weight loss, but if he is already dating someone he is cheating. DUMP him.
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