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My wife is welcome to drive my car whenever she wants and it's only 2 months old. Who cares, it's only a car? She's welcome to any of my other possessions for that matter.
I would imagine that's how most normal, functioning marriages work.
Personally, no one touches my SUV except in extreme emergencies or the mechanic. I think if OP wants to drive something "different" she should rent a car. I wouldn't want someone else driving a car that was in my name for the hell of it only.
My husband thinks like you. When he didn't have a car mine was the primary vehicle. We bought groceries in it and did everything else so he says that I don't need his truck just to go grocery shopping. What about people who don't have trucks or SUVs, they still go grocery shopping so he doesn't see why I need or want to just drive his truck to work only to park it in the parking lot all day.
My wife is welcome to drive my car whenever she wants and it's only 2 months old. Who cares, it's only a car? She's welcome to any of my other possessions for that matter.
I would imagine that's how most normal, functioning marriages work.
Not necessarily! When my husband's dad retired several years ago he took a good bit of his retirement and bought himself a brand new Chevy Silverado 1500 and his mom has never even crunk it up. She has her own car and she said she has no desire to drive the truck. I think my husband wants me to think that way. I have a car so I should be happy to drive it.
If you have your own vehicle what is the problem exactly?
You know how he feels about others using his personal property, why not just respect it and stop looking for reasons to be upset over it?
You have all these theories and ideas about why you can't use the truck, but you refuse to take his word as he has told you for the reason....think about what that says for a minute
Not necessarily! When my husband's dad retired several years ago he took a good bit of his retirement and bought himself a brand new Chevy Silverado 1500 and his mom has never even crunk it up. She has her own car and she said she has no desire to drive the truck. I think my husband wants me to think that way. I have a car so I should be happy to drive it.
My point is, who cares either way? It's just a hunk of metal and it will be dead someday, just like us.
Ladies, if you wanted to switch cars with your man simply because you wanted to drive something different or just wanted to drive his car for a while would he? If he loved you would he really say no to you? We're husband and wife so by law his car is my car, right? My car is titled to me and his car is titled to him. None of the household money was used to purchase his car. He used his school refund check to buy it.
If I loved him I would respect his feelings and not nag him about driving his vehicle. I might feel different if I need a truck to haul something or my vehicle was out of commission but just because, no.
Sometimes people just want something that is theirs and don't want anyone else using it or messing with it no matter how much they love them.
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My point is, who cares either way? It's just a hunk of metal and it will be dead someday, just like us.
Well if the car is in his name and his wife wrecks it and does a hit and run, she can lie on him and police can bring him up on charges. That is why I'd be hesitant to let anyone other than myself drive a car that is in my name.
He sees how you deal with everything else, in addition to how you allowed your son to treat the car he was borrowing. He would have to be crazy to let you use his car.
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