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Old 04-15-2016, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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No way are you crazy!?
Well, one of us is crazy... And I don't think it's me... So...
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Old 07-27-2016, 12:30 PM
 
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Days ago we had another talk about kids and marriage, I told her I don't want right now I'm not ready but, maybe years from now I could want. I just don't want to decide right now! She told me she loves me and she wants to keep our relationship going without worrying about the future! I asked her if its fair for her to date me and she giving up her dreams of becoming a mother and get married just because she loves me, she said she knows what she's doing it's her choice and her responsibility to continue dating with me and she wants to stay with me.
Now I feel bad because I'm feeling like I'm wasting her time!
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Old 07-27-2016, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Days ago we had another talk about kids and marriage, I told her I don't want right now I'm not ready but, maybe years from now I could want. I just don't want to decide right now! She told me she loves me and she wants to keep our relationship going without worrying about the future! I asked her if its fair for her to date me and she giving up her dreams of becoming a mother and get married just because she loves me, she said she knows what she's doing it's her choice and her responsibility to continue dating with me and she wants to stay with me.
Now I feel bad because I'm feeling like I'm wasting her time!
What is going on with this?

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By the way, I'm about to start therapy to overcome insecurity and jealousy!
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Old 08-04-2016, 02:36 PM
 
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What is going on with this?
What do you mean?
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Old 08-04-2016, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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What do you mean?
How's your therapy going? Have you broken up with this woman yet?
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Old 08-04-2016, 03:28 PM
 
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Days ago we had another talk about kids and marriage, I told her I don't want right now I'm not ready but, maybe years from now I could want. I just don't want to decide right now! She told me she loves me and she wants to keep our relationship going without worrying about the future! I asked her if its fair for her to date me and she giving up her dreams of becoming a mother and get married just because she loves me, she said she knows what she's doing it's her choice and her responsibility to continue dating with me and she wants to stay with me.
Now I feel bad because I'm feeling like I'm wasting her time!
You're not wasting her time, she's wasting yours. I can already see how this is gonna play out, she's gonna hold onto you until someone better comes along, someone she feels she's got a chance with a secure future with. Right now you're just something to do to keep her from boredom/loneliness. When the new guy comes into the picture that's when she'll deliver the crushing blow that your time is up with her. You'll see.
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Old 08-07-2016, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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I'm 30 she's 33...We've been dating for almost a year, recently we had a fight about having children as i'm not ready for marriage and kids but i think she wants because of her biological clock. We both are divorced but she said she wants to think about her life if she wants marriage/kids or not but i think that deep inside her heart she already wants. I like her a lot but i think we should focus more in our life, our dating, get to know each other better, our relatiohship and let our future our destiny decide for both of us... it's too soon to talk about marriage and kids but I understand her. I'm not dating her just for dating, i love her i want her but i don't want to rush things, i'm just careful even with we're both are divorced so i think we should go slow...i'm not sure if she would agree with me. What to do? What should I tell her?
Anyway I'm very sad because she said she wants to think about us but i believe she wants do break up!
What else can you do? If she wants to break up, she wants to break up.

You think it is too soon to think about marriage and kids, she perhaps wants to settle down and start a family. You guys are really not on the same page.
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