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Old 04-01-2016, 02:45 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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So my girlfriend...had sex with a few dudes years ago after her divorce (including my cousin). You know women when they divorce they **** a bunch of guys, just "casual"... now is ready for "settle down" marriage and kids? Does she thinks I'm stupid? No!
If you are so smart, why are you with someone you dislike, put down, and generally seem to have contempt for?
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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If you are so smart, why are you with someone you dislike, put down, and generally seem to have contempt for?
I see this a lot IRL, and I don't get it. If someone is insecure, perhaps. Otherwise, move on. There are a lot of hungry fish in the sea!
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:50 PM
 
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It's the quality of it that's of concern, given posting history.
I haven't read the OP's other posts but I am definitely getting the impression from this thread this isn't a stable relationship.
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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So my girlfriend...had sex with a few dudes years ago after her divorce (including my cousin). You know women when they divorce they **** a bunch of guys, just "casual"... now is ready for "settle down" marriage and kids? Does she thinks I'm stupid? No!
You apparently think we are stupid, too.

Can you not see that you aren't in the correct mental frame of mind to make decisions? You get yourself worked up into situations like this ^^^ where you start making irrational statements.

We've said it before to you and I'll say it again: You do NOT need to be with anyone now. You need professional help.
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:54 PM
 
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Folks, that's what i think is happening. This age I don't trust women, women aren't trustworthy...that's the truth. She might have a back-up plan, a guy that would marry her and have kids. So she's wondering and asking me "If he doesn't want to marry me and give me babies, i'll marry my back-up plan"!
The sooner you realize that is YOUR issue and not her's (and certainly not any universal truth), the better off you, and anyone you get involved with, will be.
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:56 PM
 
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You apparently think we are stupid, too.

Can you not see that you aren't in the correct mental frame of mind to make decisions? You get yourself worked up into situations like this ^^^ where you start making irrational statements.

We've said it before to you and I'll say it again: You do NOT need to be with anyone now. You need professional help.
I don't need professional help! I'm just out of the Matrix...I know the truth about women, i'm not naive!
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:59 PM
 
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Sometimes I think about marriage (again) and kids etc but it's complicated..I think, get married again and have kids and my soon to be wife dumps me, divorces me and i'll be slave of child support for 18 to 23 years? Its complicated friends!
Do yourself (and every person you'd be involved with) a favor and get some help for this issue.

Over-thinking about the worst case scenario is not "normal", nor is it in any way fair for you to get involved with ANYONE while you are of this mindset.

Of course it's "complicated". You are not special in this regard. You are not unique, and the sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.
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Old 04-01-2016, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I'm just out of the Matrix...
Eh?

Sorry, dude, but your posts scream "delusion" and "paranoia."
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Old 04-01-2016, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Middle of nowhere
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How many guys have dated a girl that slept with their cousin?

This is the second one this week.
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Old 04-01-2016, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Sometimes I think about marriage (again) and kids etc but it's complicated..I think, get married again and have kids and my soon to be wife dumps me, divorces me and i'll be slave of child support for 18 to 23 years? Its complicated friends!
If you stay married, you'll be a slave to supporting your kids for 18+ years, too. It's not like financial responsibilities to your family aren't a consideration unless a marriage ends.

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