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Old 04-03-2016, 12:18 PM
 
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Men that don't have other options or quite simply love the gal will and do put up with it

Plus what's high maintenance to you wont be to another fellow...... Worth considering mate
That's a good point...what's high maintenance? I mean okay, if the woman literally requires flowers thrown at her feet every time they have a date that would be high maintenance, or if she requires trips to Paris at every turn of the seasons (provided he doesn't want that as well), can't really argue with these exmples. But barring extremes, every person will have different comfort levels with this category. There's a post above where the boyfriend apparently thinks it's a huge chore literally to just sing "happy birthday," much less actually get a gift. That apparently is HIS idea of "high maintenance." You know?

And then there are some people who love to do for others. It makes *them* feel good. He might love to open her door and feel very manly and romantic doing it. She might love to give him little gifts. Yet the next person might think wanting such things would constitute a serious imposition, even usury...and "high maintenance."

So sometimes you might shake your head at another couple, yet they're both perfectly happy.

This is really, IMO, about *your comfort level*, full stop...no matter what that is. If *you feel* pushed around and disrespected then SOMETHING'S not right...but what's not right may simply be that you're not a match and you think very different things are important and necessary. It doesn't mean one of you is "wrong," per se. It doesn't have to mean she's a princess or you're cheap and not manly, or whatever. It is just not a match.

The reasons why people stay have pretty much already been covered but I felt LC made such a good point there that I wanted to comment.
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Old 04-03-2016, 12:20 PM
 
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Because there are a lot of superficial people out there who select their partners based solely on appearance and not on anything else. Because it's more important to have a hot piece of arm candy than a person who may be average looking and is also a wonderful person in general.
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Old 04-03-2016, 12:20 PM
 
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Often it's because they are dating out of their league.
if a guy is a solid 4 maybe a 6 on a good day and can normally attract a 5(with much effort) and the hottest he has been with was maybe a 7(as a rebound for a week 5 years ago), if a guy like that manages to land a 9 or 10 he will put up with all kinds of BS from her because he knows the odds of him ever finding another girl who is as hott, every time he gets fed up his mind will flash back images of the girls he attracted before her, and he will lower his head and hold his tongue.
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Old 04-03-2016, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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I tend to take awhile, usually at least an hour, to get ready. My boyfriend is a patient man. He understands that I like to look good when we go out together. I also treat him really well and absolutely adore him, which is mutual. I mean, no one's perfect. He amuses himself while I get ready, and then enjoys the arm candy when we finally hit the town together. I can feel him beaming with pride lol.
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Old 04-03-2016, 12:59 PM
 
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Becuase "they want to make it work"
Whatever that entails depends solely on why they want someone in their lives
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Old 04-03-2016, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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I have recently come to the realization that I just can't do it anymore...

I have dated several women that were high maintenance. The biggest problem here is that I myself can be impatient. Having to wait 3 hours for someone to get ready, to be late all the time, and to be pushed aside for what someone else considers "more important things" is just wrong. They always seem to be very much into themselves and you cannot depend on them for when things go bad. And all this for (if you are lucky) mediocre sex?

Why do guys put up with this? I just can't anymore...

I don't know what annoys me more..that or the men that put up with it.
Why do you keep dating high maintenance women? There is something about them that attracts you or you wouldn't have dated "several" of them, you would have stopped after one.
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Old 04-03-2016, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Ambivalence.
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Old 04-03-2016, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Because there are a lot of superficial people out there who select their partners based solely on appearance and not on anything else. Because it's more important to have a hot piece of arm candy than a person who may be average looking and is also a wonderful person in general.
People who are high maintenance looks wise can also be wonderful people.
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Old 04-03-2016, 01:18 PM
 
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People who are high maintenance looks wise can also be wonderful people.
When they available...
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Old 04-03-2016, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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When they available...
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