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Old 04-03-2016, 10:17 AM
 
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I have recently come to the realization that I just can't do it anymore...

I have dated several women that were high maintenance. The biggest problem here is that I myself can be impatient. Having to wait 3 hours for someone to get ready, to be late all the time, and to be pushed aside for what someone else considers "more important things" is just wrong. They always seem to be very much into themselves and you cannot depend on them for when things go bad. And all this for (if you are lucky) mediocre sex?

Why do guys put up with this? I just can't anymore...

I don't know what annoys me more..that or the men that put up with it.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Warwick, RI
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Perhaps because they may lack the self esteem needed to push themselves out of a crappy relationship and move on to what's next, similar to why a lot of women stay with guys who are real jerks. Just a guess, but maybe the devil they know may be better to most than the devil they don't.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:38 AM
 
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Perhaps because they may lack the self esteem needed to push themselves out of a crappy relationship and move on to what's next, similar to why a lot of women stay with guys who are real jerks. Just a guess, but maybe the devil they know may be better to most than the devil they don't.
Good answer!
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:40 AM
 
Location: Earth
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Perhaps because they may lack the self esteem needed to push themselves out of a crappy relationship and move on to what's next, similar to why a lot of women stay with guys who are real jerks. Just a guess, but maybe the devil they know may be better to most than the devil they don't.
This. Plenty of men and women stay with princess, jerks, or abusers.

Why? Self-esteem, sex, not wanting to be single, ego-boost, etc.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:44 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Why do a lot people put up with less than favorable circumstances?

Most of the time is low self esteem or the belief they can't get anything better. There is always a choice.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:46 AM
 
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This. Plenty of men and women stay with princess, jerks, or abusers.

Why? Self-esteem, sex, not wanting to be single, ego-boost, etc.
Yeah. The type of guys that stay with the type of woman you describe are likely inexperienced pushovers just happy to be with a woman.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Maine
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Perhaps because they may lack the self esteem needed to push themselves out of a crappy relationship and move on to what's next, similar to why a lot of women stay with guys who are real jerks. Just a guess, but maybe the devil they know may be better to most than the devil they don't.
^^^^^^^^This right here. I'm not too proud of myself to admit I was in this boat back when I was 27. She was a knockout. Great arm candy. That was about all she was worth. Quite an ego boost. I finally had just had enough and off she went. Thank God.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Boobs, that's why.
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Old 04-03-2016, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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If you are talking about appearances, some men like high maintenance women. Some men appreciate a woman that spends a lot of time and energy on her appearance.
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Old 04-03-2016, 11:43 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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I have recently come to the realization that I just can't do it anymore...

I have dated several women that were high maintenance. The biggest problem here is that I myself can be impatient. Having to wait 3 hours for someone to get ready, to be late all the time, and to be pushed aside for what someone else considers "more important things" is just wrong. They always seem to be very much into themselves and you cannot depend on them for when things go bad. And all this for (if you are lucky) mediocre sex?

Why do guys put up with this? I just can't anymore...

I don't know what annoys me more..that or the men that put up with it.
Men that don't have other options or quite simply love the gal will and do put up with it

Plus what's high maintenance to you wont be to another fellow...... Worth considering mate
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