Am I being immature ?

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by RunningForChange

we talked a couple nights ago.
It was a constructive talk, but I think the fall out isnt exactly clean. She was reasonable, and she was about as upse as i was from what i could tell over the phone.
We will have to address the bed situation this weekend, so more dialog will happen.

I am not going to hold a grudge, but my lerspective as to how compatible we are has been kind of.... rocked.
If we do not have another situation like this again, I will let it be in the past. But if somethin anywhere near this happens again then I will likely end the relationship. I just cant handle going going through this kind of behavior again. One thin i learned through this is there are some things that are deal breakers to me, and she really practically commited one. I will try to work through this and recover. But the truth is, if we werent 3 days into a new lease and we hadnt just moved in, I honestly dont know if i would have the same willingness for commitment considering our non-compatible issues. I am learning there are more than a couple.

I thought her and i, together were better than having this situation/level of drama. It is dissapointin to me this whole event went to such levels.

It "went to such levels" because she acted bratty and you acted clueless.

Here's the thing: NONE of what happened should be considered a deal-breaker.

What you two experienced, had you understood the rules of fair fighting and had more experience in properly dealing with conflict with each other, would have been called an "adjustment."

Arguing over this kind of thing is one of several dozen new issues you both are going to have to be able to ADJUST TO when you move in together.

As has been mentioned, it is more difficult for two older people who are used to living on their own longer to adjust, but it should be possible.

You aren't supposed to walk out without speaking and consider ending it all after 3 days.

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

It "went to such levels" because she acted bratty and you acted clueless.

Here's the thing: NONE of what happened should be considered a deal-breaker.

What you two experienced, had you understood the rules of fair fighting and had more experience in properly dealing with conflict with each other, would have been called an "adjustment."

Arguing over this kind of thing is one of several dozen new issues you both are going to have to be able to ADJUST TO when you move in together.

As has been mentioned, it is more difficult for two older people who are used to living on their own longer to adjust, but it should be possible.

You aren't supposed to walk out without speaking and consider ending it all after 3 days.

^^^^^
This!!!


Have you ever noticed that many people who are single, can never hold a relationship for very long, etc. - tend to advise to break up over dumb stuff like your issue?


People who are in long relationships know that nothing comes easy. Tolerance, patience, and understanding is the key. Nobody is perfect.




If we always break up over little stuff we will end up alone and bitter. But hey, we stood our ground!

[Regulatus]

Get out now! Don't be there when she gets back from her trip (she's likely banging a co-worker then anyhow). It's only going to get worse the longer you stay. Get out now!

[Just A Guy]

At the very least, the OP should sit down with her and set some ground rules for what is acceptable when they have disagreements. If he does not do that or if she doesn't honor that agreement, he's in for one rough ride if he decides to stay with her.