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That is harder to do. I know the medication he is prescribed is methylphenidate, but it was not mentioned specifically by name, only insinuated. It is audio only. He said he was going to get something to "make her feel better", then came back and let himself into the house gave it to her and they had sex.
It strikes me that your surveillance tactics may drive you crazy. This is a very unhealthy situation you're in. At some point, you need to make a clean break, for your own peace of mind.
It strikes me that your surveillance tactics may drive you crazy. This is a very unhealthy situation you're in. At some point, you need to make a clean break, for your own peace of mind.
Yes, that's what my mom and brother and his fiance told me. They're right. It served 2 purposes, though: 1. Made me realize it was truly over. 2. Gave me evidence of what is going on. Plus, it is also to protect myself, so I'm conflicted. Maybe the first two points were enough though and I can stop now.
I would have been in a similar situation but I got a room at the local sleez hotel just before my wife's new lover moved in. I was capable of murder and at the very least an assault charge. All I had was my job back then and I would have lost that with an arrest. She's gone and I'm still workin'......
Folks here are gonna talk about abandonment and you losing rights to the property...blah...blah....blah.
Your name is on the deed. Your name is on the mortgage. A judge won't and can't remove you from either. You have to agree to such matters. A judge can order a sale though. That's if you and your estranged can't come to an agreement.
Dollars to doughnuts that alcohol is involved along with SSRIs and whatever else the new stud muffin can provide.
Leave.
Because they're gonna mess up. And you don't want to be dragged down with 'em.
In my case, the two lovebirds decided they couldn't handle the house and everything with it. My ex-wife relinquished everything.....walked away with $30k and her car.
Two weeks later.
I moved back home, made sure that the divorce decree included her name off of the deed, refinanced the mortgage in my name, and here I am with two dogs, two cats and a fish tank.
It strikes me that your surveillance tactics may drive you crazy. This is a very unhealthy situation you're in. At some point, you need to make a clean break, for your own peace of mind.
They (and anying in them) might also not be admissible depending on the state the devoirce is mediated in
Thanks for sharing your story, YAZ. I'm glad it has worked out so well for you. I know it will for me. Now is a transitional time, and it helps to hear from others who have experienced something similar.
They (and anying in them) might also not be admissible depending on the state the devoirce is mediated in
I was wondering about that. I'll see what the lawyer says. I read up on it quite a bit before making them, and what I could determine is that if done in one's own marital home in the primary living area, not a bedroom or bathroom, and especially if the purpose is to protect oneself, especially from a third party not enjoined in the marriage, then there is not a problem. I'm not going to tell anyone other than my attorney and the Internet, but regardless of admissibility wanted to be reasonably certain recording wasn't illegal by itself.
Your surveillance tactics aren't gonna hurt ya. They're not gonna help ya either.
I read up on a case where the guy used some funky ways to get custody of children and the judge threw the evidence out because it was collected illegally. Highly doubt that you're gonna get more money or property with documented information......
There is solace in knowing the truth, and I understand why you've done the things that you felt that needed to be done.
Again, I urge you to remove yourself from the situation, Clint. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones and you'll find that you'll get sick of talking about it before they get sick of hearing about it. Your estranged wife and her loser boyfriend will hang themselves (figuratively), without you being part of their three ringed circus.
Leave. No contact. Change your cell phone number. Get a new plan if ya have to. Make the lawyers do the talkin' if ya go that route. I arranged for a police escort to get some personal things while my wife's new lover was "home." Best witness ever.
Any chance you can put up a sign when you enter the house clearly stating that "Video and Audio Monitoring is in Effect" Like the shoplifting signs you see walking in to a store.
Any chance you can put up a sign when you enter the house clearly stating that "Video and Audio Monitoring is in Effect" Like the shoplifting signs you see walking in to a store.
lol! That's hilarious! But it might encourage them to tear the place apart looking for his devices, while he's at work.
My wife and this guy are both basically functional people with good jobs. If I left they wouldn't do anything more damaging than leave dirty dishes all around the house and eat doritos and drink red bull for breakfast. My house is the only leverage I have here, so will be sticking around until all of the i 's are dotted and ts crossed.
Moving on mentally and emotionally is what I'm trying to do now, which requires me to shed previous cognitive habits, like wondering what my wife will think, etc. Spending time with family is great.
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