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I'm a small/medium business owner and don't travel at all besides visiting family trips. My wife goes away frequently for 3-5 day trips a few(5-10) times a year. They are somewhat career related, but they are casual to say the least.
We travel as a family 2-3x a year to visit family on the east coast. We also travel as a family 1x a year to Europe for ~20 days.
I'm wanting to spend about a week in Europe, on my bicycle, just wandering around my families village, people watching, drinking espressos, and decompressing from the stressful life I have.
We are both income earners, although I pay 100% or all our expenses as well as traveling.
My question is, do you guys think it would be wrong to ask to go on a trip like this solo? Do you think it's selfish? I feel that it's important to my wellbeing and something I think about a lot.
Why are you asking us? Does your wife have a problem with it?
I'm a small/medium business owner and don't travel at all besides visiting family trips. My wife goes away frequently for 3-5 day trips a few(5-10) times a year. They are somewhat career related, but they are casual to say the least.
We travel as a family 2-3x a year to visit family on the east coast. We also travel as a family 1x a year to Europe for ~20 days.
I'm wanting to spend about a week in Europe, on my bicycle, just wandering around my families village, people watching, drinking espressos, and decompressing from the stressful life I have.
We are both income earners, although I pay 100% or all our expenses as well as traveling.
My question is, do you guys think it would be wrong to ask to go on a trip like this solo? Do you think it's selfish? I feel that it's important to my wellbeing and something I think about a lot.
A supportive wife would love for you to enjoy yourself on a solo trip.
However, who has one of those wives? Lol!
Will you come back will be the lingering question.
A supportive wife would love for you to enjoy yourself on a solo trip.
However, who has one of those wives? Lol!
Will you come back will be the lingering question.
Mr. CSD has one of those wives, he travels without me all the time because I am not physically able to go with him most of the time and there is no reason for him to stay home just because I have to. Even before I became unable to go with him most of the time he traveled alone simply because I did not want to go with him.
What a silly notion that a spouse cannot travel alone for any reason.
Thanks for all the suggestions, criticisms, and advice.
To those that question the expense and somewhat excessive amounts spend traveling, I will offer this.
We are a family that lives well below our means in our daily lives to be able to travel more. Our newest car is 15 years old. I haven't bought a new article of clothing in 2 years. I cut my own, as well as the kids' hair. I carry absolutely ZERO unsecured personal debt ( credit card ). We don't have cable tv. I make our own laundry detergent. The list goes on - hopefully you get the idea.
When we travel, outside of the airline tickets, we don't spend much more as housing and meals are provided by our family, so this isn't a vacation on a beachfront villa in Amalfi of some resort. Our trips are solely to visit family - absolutely no leisure or sight seeing.
It depends on the wife. Some might not like it and will serve you divorce paper. My SIL did. Her husband used to take long walk by himself and left her at home with the children. She mentioned that when she divorced him.
Seriously? Unless those walks included a short-cut and brief layover in a red light district, that is patently ridiculous. How any grown ass adult would put up with being on short leash is beyond me.
I am also one of those wives who would say go and have fun. In fact, I do, we travel separately all the time, just for fun. I actually wouldn't be married to someone who had a problem with this. I do not get the big deal people make about this. Either you trust someone or you don't, and being married to me doesn't mean you must do everything together. I do not travel solo, only because I prefer to meet people, but I do meet friends and go on trips without my husband. My husband does both, sometimes goes away solo and sometimes with friends, And we do have a child and tons of pets, but the other is more than happy to take over at home. And seriously, bringing up someone took two hour walks in a divorce hearing, how clingy must that person have been if this actually bothered them. I think in a relationship no one should need to " ask permission" to do something. Sure you should be considerate and make sure it works for the other if you go away that week ( I mean works in terms of house duties, kids etc) like there have been times when my husband was too busy at work to feel comfortable taking over at home, like working 14 hour days type of thing, and when that is the case I just have picked another week to go away. But I would certainly not expect him to ask permission to go away and I would not either.
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