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Had a second date last night. The girl does seem interested in me. She lives 90 minutes away
We went to a basketball game then dinner. She took a pic of us and sent it to her mom and Her mom said "omg he is kind of cute!". She was also very touch feely with e during the game. Hand in my hand, arm around my arm
While we were eating dinner we talked about what we look for in a relationship. I mentioned how I'm not into games and she said "I'm not leading you on. I don't want to be in a relationship with you. It's not you at all, I like you I just am focused on school"
I was shocked because it looked like she had interest in me(saying how she was excited to see me, or saying i miss you). So when we got back to my place I asked her "so what was the whole i dont want to be in a relationship with you "talk about? Are you saying you have no interest at all?
She said "I have 6 weeks left of school and I'm done. I have been in school for 5 years and I;m focusing on finishing. Then I'm taking time to myself. Right now I don't want anything with anyone until I finish school, so I can't really say what will happen between us but rfrom now to when school ends i dont want anything with anyone.But I will tell you I like you and am attracted to you"
So where do I go from here?
Last edited by wonderyearsshow; 04-10-2016 at 03:34 PM..
She told you she liked you and was attracted to you, but has to focus on school, after which she wants to take some "me" time, whatever that may mean. (Travel? Downtime to recover from an intense school schedule?) She's saying she's into you, but she's not in a position to pursue a relationship at this time. She cares enough to share your pic with her mom and get her mom's approval. But it sounds like she's being realistic, and is putting her education and future employability first, and she was honest enough to tell you that (a good sign).
Ask her what her plans are after she graduates. Ask her if she hopes to stay in the area or the state, or if she envisions going wherever she can find a good job.
IMO, a woman who finds a great guy that she likes and is attracted to isn't going to throw that away. But she left you hanging, considering her "time for herself" comment re: after graduation. You'd think she'd have said that after she's done with school and recovers from the stress, she'd love to see you, but she didn't say that.
I'd say, keep dating around so you don't have all your eggs in one basket, but also find out what her employment plans are for the future.
edit: wait, she said she wants to keep seeing you? And you guys are having sex, but she doesn't want a relationship? You might call it to her attention that you two are already in a relationship. Ask her: if that's not what she wants, what is it you two have--is it FWB? You need to get clarification, here.
She told you she liked you and was attracted to you, but has to focus on school, after which she wants to take some "me" time, whatever that may mean. (Travel? Downtime to recover from an intense school schedule?) She's saying she's into you, but she's not in a position to pursue a relationship at this time. She cares enough to share your pic with her mom and get her mom's approval. But it sounds like she's being realistic, and is putting her education and future employability first, and she was honest enough to tell you that (a good sign).
Ask her what her plans are after she graduates. Ask her if she hopes to stay in the area or the state, or if she envisions going wherever she can find a good job.
IMO, a woman who finds a great guy that she likes and is attracted to isn't going to throw that away. But she left you hanging, considering her "time for herself" comment re: after graduation. You'd think she'd have said that after she's done with school and recovers from the stress, she'd love to see you, but she didn't say that.
I'd say, keep dating around so you don't have all your eggs in one basket, but also find out what her employment plans are for the future.
edit: wait, she said she wants to keep seeing you? And you guys are having sex, but she doesn't want a relationship? You might call it to her attention that you two are already in a relationship. Ask her: if that's not what she wants, what is it you two have--is it FWB? You need to get clarification, here.
shes working a full time job adn a part time while doing school. after she graduates she's quitting teh part time job and full time job and is taking two weeks after she graduates to visit family out of state, then she starts her new career job.
we only have had sex once. well 2 dates. we didnt have sex last night. she got sick. so we just cuddled which was fine
She lives 90 minutes away, and she said straight up she doesn't plan to be available after she graduates.
So ... what's the point??
BTW, her mom's reaction is VERY telling. "He IS kind of cute ... " means the girl is attracted to you for now but does not think you are cute ENOUGH to go out of her way. She obviously had told her mom she KIND OF likes you but not enough.
She lives 90 minutes away, and she said straight up she doesn't plan to be available after she graduates.
So ... what's the point??
BTW, her mom's reaction is VERY telling. "He IS kind of cute ... " means the girl is attracted to you for now but does not think you are cute ENOUGH to go out of her way. She obviously had told her mom she KIND OF likes you but not enough.
huh? im sorry but that made no sense at all
her mom had never seen a pic of me. why are you implying IS
Hey. You had sex with her. Hope it was enjoyable for both. Sounds like you want more than FWB. Time to move on.
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